FR - Social Climber

So I went out tonight and ran some sets that went nowhere or I ejected bc I got bored. I wanna make my FRs tighter so I will focus on the girl I actually liked.

I was at my usual late night haunt when I started working a 3set that knew Stickler and also my real life friends who were in the club. I worked them and built some attraction with all three girls and just really pushed my teasing. I then spun off of them when my pivots showed up. I just kept building social value. I start chatting to a new girl that knows my friends and build a lot of comfort and mild attraction, as I wasn't attracted to her. She has a friend I am trying to work up to, but she is surrounded by guys. This girl HBskinny goes to the bathroom and one of the guys, who she had been closely talking to comes back with shots. I dive into routines on the guy, building humor and rapport. Just really going for value. He eventually gives me the shot he had bought for HBskinny. I eventually realize that she is just surrounded by protective male friends. They are all decent guys and none of them was shitty to me in the slightest. I can only get mini-isolations but I really pushed the kino hard. I also kinoed all of the guys, working my skinship frame. I hugged every guy every chance I could. Bad guys don't hug. So I do. It really created a strong frame. The guys started encouraging her with me. It was a really nice place to be. I built rapport with each guy individually over the night. Her friend had a massive drama at one point, so I couldn't get a full isolation. I remembered to qualify, but I'm still not strong enough in this area. I just need to work on it more. I mean I don't throw enough after she qualifies. But I was really alpha and really sexually dominant. Eventually the night was ending and her friends were leaving. So I said I guess I will never see you again and she said unless I give you my number. And she immediately gave it to me and checked that I got it right. Her guy friend turned to me and said that she is a really good girl. Not in a negative way but in a way that said I should treat her nice. I really respect that. I actually liked her personality a lot and her body is exactly my type. I remembered to build strong callback humor by telling her my girl name and she started calling me it. This was one of my better sets imho opinion as I built a warm approach through about 7 people to get to her. Climbing a social ladder.

Notes from Japan 1 - Skinship

As you know I lived in Japan for two years and it has massively affected my gaming style and fashion. Today I want to talk to you about one of the most powerful words I learned during my time in Japan. Skinship: Human to human touch. In Japan there is a great deal of emphasis placed on this. And it is sorely lacking in most western cultures....

My first day in Japan I saw teenage boys lying across each other, massaging each other, and hugging each other. My first thought was that all of Japan is gay. In fact, it's nearly the opposite. The standard assumption is that men are not gay, therefore they can really express themselves with non-sexual touch. The Japanese have realized that as humans we crave skin on skin contact. There is far more physical openness as all Japanese go to onsen, or public bathhouses, and bathe in public in the nude.

Im the western world there has been a steady decline in human to human contact for centuries. First men stopped touching women as form of sexual repression. Then men stopped touching men as a way of suppressing their homosexuality, even when they were straight. If you notice, often when girls see each other they run up and hug. If two men did the same thing, we would immediately think they are gay. Only recently did I start to question the logic in this. I knew two naturals, who hugged each other every time they saw each other and said something emotional and kind. It's really powerful. I started to emulate them as I wanted to improve my game. Just last night, a guy I'm friends with was over with my house mate. I walked in on them chilling in my house mates room at about 1am, super drunk. My friend tried to shake my hand and I said I don't think so and hugged him. He was hesitant for a second, but then he almost broke my back with a long strong hug. As soon as I made it ok for him to express skinship, he expressed a lot more than me.

In Japanese culture there is a great deal of emphasis placed on the greater good, which I will explore in another article. People express skinship in their relationships as a way of being there for each other. It's a way of giving value. This is something very valuable, that I think we would do well to bring into our society. I often quote the powerful line from Tommy Boy "Brothers don't shake hands, brothers hug!"

When I first started this whole thing, I really freaked out about kino, like everybody else. But not-kinoing is more unnatural. There are a million non-sexual ways to give people physical affirmation. I decided that I wanted to be a guy who has a lot of touch in his life, so that kino will just be congruent. So I touch men and women. I hug girls in set constantly, and not just my target. The new centerpiece of my theory is that of giving out as much value as possible. I want everyone to feel better after they meet me, and for some deep reason, hugs make us feel better.

There are hundreds of articles on how important touch is for babies. Babies that don't get a ton of touch from their mothers right from birth often have massive psychological issues. There are a ton of studies you can read on google scholar about effect of gentle human touch (GHT) on infants. As we grow our needs do not change. I try to hug all of my friends and I am trying to increase the amount in my life. Often we can go through an entire day without actually touching another person, this is so common in big cities and a massive part of why people can feel lonely surrounded by other people.

Japanese people have higher levels of skinship because people just aren't as worried about seeming gay. We could learn a lot from this. I am sure I'm not gay, so I should be able to have tons of non-sexual touch with my friends. I will close by relating one final story. One of my favorite students at a school where I struggled most days was a sweet 14 year old girl. One day she saw me during lunch time and ran at me to hug me. I pulled back, because in America it's really inappropriate for a male teacher to hug a female student. Her feelings were really hurt. My refusing to touch her in a way acceptable in her society really hurt her feelings. I denied her skinship and it changed our relationship drastically in class from that point on.

So in conclusion, our mindset shouldn't be to only touch people for the purpose of sexual escalation. Touch should just be part of our lives, how we give affirmation. Touch is a massive part of how we communicate. Then it will naturally flow that when you are communicating sexually, your touch-based communication will go along with it naturally.

Skinship (スキンシップ) is a wasei-eigo, or a Japanese word coined using English root origins, initially to describe the closeness between a mother and her child due to the physical contact of their skin. Skinship develops through breastfeeding, co-sleeping, baby massage or simply by carrying and holding your baby.

My life

I have a ton of things going on right now and I want to update you on them all. But I have decided I will write about a conversation I had with my friend this morning. I have been really close friends with this guy for a year and he really knows how good I am getting with girls. This morning he stopped by the house and we were chatting and he was telling me I better stay away from about 6 of the girls I have met this week. He said they all belong to the lead singer of his band. He was like be careful this guy is really alpha. The list of girls included girls with boyfriends and girls that this dude has dumped. My friend was like once this dude has picked a girl he owns her forever. So you really better be careful. He even used the word alpha.

I almost died laughing. The guy he is describing is a scrawny 19year old who has his mom drive him out every time I see him. I told my friend the last time I got a threat like that it was followed by two marines beating me and sending me down a flight of stairs. It's hard to be scared now. Then my friend said I mean it will be a battle of minds. I was like look if this guy has a problem with me tell him he can come say something to my face anytime he wants. I will leave my front door open every night when I sleep to make it easier for him to try and surprise attack me. I will not live in fear of anyone. My friend just kept making the threats so vague.

I haven't decided what action I will take, but now I am definitely inspired by the challenge. When I pushed my friends bluff he admitted that this dude is possessive of women including his ex-girlfriends because he is really insecure. I mean there are a lot of courses of action I could take, ranging from totally ignoring this loser to starting a confrontation. Now I don't fight anymore so that's not an option. To be honest, I really don't care about this guy at all and I'm only blogging to show you what kinda things are going on in my life.

You know I go to the gym constantly and work on my martial arts a lot. I don't feel physically scared. I think what I feel is mostly apathy with a hint of annoyance? I mean it's hard to feel nothing when you are threatened, but I am really trying to become emotionally unaffected. I'll ask for advice on the Lounge.

Battle of the Bands 2

I know I called the last one something about my tigger suit, but this was the 2nd one i went to! Anyways, I went out to this club and planned on meeting one of my friends, who showed up an hour after me. I brought my harlequin mask, but I didn't put it on until the 2nd bar. I just got distracted. Anyways, I just sat on the couch sending texts and whatever waiting for people to arrive and for me to switch into social mode.

I was out at the bar and 2 really hot bartenders were there that I want to Social Circle close. So my plan was to build a ton of social proof in the room. I ran a little game on each one later in the night. Just to plant some remember me seeds. I will break rapport later.

During the first band, my mate and his hot gf show up. I start chilling with them. A coupla girls start talking to the gf and I immediately dive in and run my usual schtick. I get them to both fall in love with me and I worked on my new project to kino about 5x more than usual. And boy did that work out great. I was really trying to push the envelope, because my entire "give a damn" muscle seems to be gone. I just kept escalating and when I got an erection, I was like you gave me an erection! Right to my target in front of her friends. We talked on and off all night, and I remember to run my initial callback humor routine, but then I forgot to call it back, until the text I just sent this morning. Anyways, I realize that I didn't qualify anyone last nite! I forgot that entire phase because I was so distracted. Anyways, me and my target HBGlases made out in the alley and I could have taken her home, but instead I decided to try and close another girl. Oh well! While I'm closing the 2nd girl, HBglasses goes home or something, but I got her number and I'll see if it goes anywhere.

The lead singer of one of the bands is a super hot girl I know. I met her tigger suit night and she has been my best friend ever since. At the bar, after the last band has played I come over to say goodnight and her friend is next to her. I just start running routines, isolate, and really make it sexual fast. The girl starts talking about how horny she is within about 6 minutes. She is like omg I'm never that naughty. And I was like girl stop trying to seduce me! We try to go to a dark corner to make out between the inside and outside door, and dammit it's locked. Later I try another location but people keep walking by. I still did a lot of ass-grabbing and number closed.

Then I went to another bar that both girls had said they were going to. I see a ton of their friends there, but not them, so at some point I text both of them to come to this bar, but I get no reply. It's ok because I closed 2 more girls.

I walk upstairs and run into a group of 4 dudes I know sitting around this girl. I start chatting and all the guys leave within like 2 minutes. I run a ton of routines on her and escalate fast, building up some tension. She isn't drunk and has to leave in 5 minutes, so I just really push it. I get some pics with her and find out she is a professional polo player. So I get HBPolo to promise to hunt me down and add me on facebook the minute she gets home and not to go to bed til she has done it. She also invites me to her big match. When I got home she had already added me. I see that she has a bf that she never mentioned in the bar, so far be it from me to bring it up now!

Then I go downstairs, decide there are no more girls to sarge, and put on my harlequin mask. And in walks HBPolish one of the first girls I ever sarged. She is one of my favorite girls to see out, because she waves and hugs me a lot and is hot. Massive social proof. She tells me she is going back to Poland on June1 for at least 2 months and maybe forever. She is really friendly and our interaction is massively sexual for the first time. She is being really sexy. But I am bastard tired from 7 hours of sarging and I don't really push the close. Although, I think I could have pulled her into the bathroom. At this club it's too small. And there is no corner where her friends couldn't see us. She invited me to come out with her Saturday night for her goodbye party.

I games some other blonds as well, but I wasn't really interested so I ejected early. I am thinking of going to a dr to find out why I don't wanna bang any blonds.

So two review. 2 Numbers, 1 Facebook, ! Date Invite, and a kclose with one of them. Safe! (Pics on Lounge)

PS I ran into HBSparkles best friend who told me a lot more about my breakup, but boy do I not care. I will put it in another post later today.

who i run into

so i an walking out my good to meet a friend on my way to the gym and who do i see on my corner but the teacher from last night. She was walking away and for a second i hesitated but then i thought f that. I am not afraid of anything. She has a good lead so i jog and just pretend i am out for a jog. She was pretty rude and lame to be honest and i just dont have time for that. Her bad behavior really lowered her value and demosurated her lack of social calibration. I ejected because i just dont have time for rude people in any part of my life. Also her looks and daytime dress sense left a lot to be desired. Its strange how prettier girls just act nicer. Anyways it was funny to run into her outside my door. Just shows how small this town is. On another note, my other pulls are progressing along.

FR - Indie Music Monday

Yet again I am trying to write an fr while i'm all drunky. So sorry for the spelling mistakes dude. I went out tonight to start my Social Circle Challenge. I went to the indie bar where I want to close the super hot bartender. I went out with the mindset to rock as many sets as possible in a social circle where I have no status. One friend of mine was there with his gf, so I went to meet up with him. And I am gonna be honest, tonight I felt like a true jedi. Damn I am drunk.

Ok so I get there and I am talking to my friend and his gf at the bar. A girl walks up and that he knows. She is a cute brunette and I start straight into my stack. Cold reads etc. I really don't remember. I wish I knew how some dudes can remember whole paragraphs of dialog. Anyways, she buys all 3 of us shots. I work her with massive push pull as I was really thinking about that tonight. I ramp up some attraction. I also start working the girl next to me, who happens to be the trumpet in the headlining band. How the hell would I know, as I don't listen to this kinda music? I build some attraction and then a lot of comfort, as I want to create LTBF bc this girl ain't slim enough for me.

Anyways, eventually the first girl goes back to her friends after I have created a strong impression. It's a warm approach, so I don't need to overdo it. I see her outside and run more routines, with moderate success. I have increased my teasing, but I think it was too much as her self esteem was lower than my initial calibration. I mean nothing other than more sets will help that. I dragger her back inside, just the two of us. Thanks to the post I read by Rokker today. I was like I'm getting a drink come with me. And I just made her. And I'll be damned if it didn't work. But this is where I totally messed up. At home when I read his post, I was like waht comfort routine will I run to start isolation? And I was like, I'll think of something! And I totally didn't. I had her in isolation like 1 minute. Her guy-friend even said wow you guys are back quick. Man I am such an ass!!!! Anyways, after my missing my chance to f her in the toilets basically, her attraction declined and she left later without a damn word of goodbye. But don't worry I was camera crazy tonight, after last night's pictureless debacle.

Ok. Then I worked the barmaid that was on duty tonight with two of my friends. So I kept joking with them about her and with her about them. My friend left for a while to put his gf on her train home. So I really didn't feel like working any new sets, which is impossible while a band is playing anyways. So I tried out some material on this girl, like what is her nerd secret. She is a massive CSI buff and watches all 3 of those crappy American series. I told her how I use to be on a competitive counter strike team. Hehe. It was kinda cool.

I used the trumpet girl to social proof me. I also opened a bunch of guys by calling them emo. Then taking it back. Man I don't even know what an emo kid is really. I just know indie kids hate it. Anyways, the main band of the night was 4 girls. I start working the lead singer at the bar, which leads to the drummer, which leads to the bass girl, which leads to the hot guitarist. Now all four girls have boyfriends, half of them there, but by the end of the night all of them were, as Soul would say, DTF. I was really building to going after the guitarist. I got some killer pics with her. I mean it's amazing how climbing a social proof ladder can just something something sexy target. HA! Anyways, I really ratcheted up attraction with her and created a facebook promise, but I couldn't do more as the guitarist' boyfriend was there. I worked him too and complimented his sailor hat, which I thought was cute. I know she liked me a lot, because she mentioned liking my eye sticker like 5 times. I am going to pursue her bc I like her a lot. Really sexy and a musician. I am a groupie!!!

I will of course post pics on the Lounge for all to enjoy. Sorry I can't think of what specific routines I ran. I was just massively cocky and funny. I just am trying to have a real don't care attitude and tell jokes that are pretty intense. I asked one girl that I sarged 2 weeks ago and failed with why she dyed her hair. I was like wow you used to be so pretty! How intense is that? She and her friends loved it! (She was the drummer). I wasn't joking though bc her new look is like way less cute than the old one. I didn't even recognize her. Just her name when she said it. Ok I'm done.

Oh ya. On my walk home, I walked past my social circle target in the train station. In deep comfort with her boyfriend. Irony. She looked happy and I'm not into bf-destroying.

Dance Dance Revolution

So I'm still trying to learn to fill my days. I am suddenly super into dancing again. I have already gotten some good feedback on my dancing from the forums and facebook. I am pretty pleased. I am now in the process of getting these training videos onto my phone. It is not easy. I have to download them and then convert them to a format my phone can save. Youtube on my phone wants me to constantly re-download the videos. How dare they! But anyways, I am super into this dancer. I mean my tutting is already insane compared to 24 hours ago. There are 4 videos in that series and I'm only halfway through the first one. I really need to start working on footwork. That has always been my biggest area of weakness and I need to sort it out you know? I just took a shower and I'm finally clean. And of course I feel like shooting another video. What the hell is wrong with me? Stickler just told me the mask looks creepy, but what can I do? I think I will record me just tutting to see how that looks for now. Check out this inspirational vid!!!

Bank Holiday Surprise

So this morning I woke up and it is dreary outside. It's a bank holiday so I am not sure if the gym is even open. How lame am I? Anyways, there is no way i'm running in the rain to a closed gym. So I have to workout here and this is good new for you. I was readong on LSS that there are a coupla guys into liquid, so I got motivated to record some footage. So I threw on my harlequin mask and my ufos and got busy. I am dancing to a cd of me djing, which is like double strange. Check this playaS!



The hardest part is how unnatural it all is. To dance for a camera by myself and hope that none of my house mates walk in and see how weird it looks! But really I wasn't in top form. I was out late last night. As you know from my FR below. I am sweating so much right now. I really need to practice more. It' enjoyable cardio. I tried to throw in some tutting. I did some test videos without the mask that looked great, so I hope this one turned out. I mean I will keep doing this all day, so whatever video I have put in here is the best one!

OK. It is still uploading to youtube. I compressed the video myself, but it is almost 10 full minutes long. I like a lot of it. But I was trying out some moves that just came off rough. I am definitely wearing the wrong kind of shoes too. I hate that squeaking as much as you. I just tried to record some more and my camera battery died! I am sweating so damn much, but I think it's really good. If you are my facebook friend, you can see the videos I recorded before I thought to put on my mask. HA!

Bank Holiday Sunday With Maverick69

I meet up with Maverick around 930 and we head out. The first bar we go to is kinda packed, but there is a band and everyone is sitting down. Mav has been working all day so we just get one drink in and chat for a while. He opens a rough girl at the table next to us when she drops her phone and gets blown out. Of course it's really hard to care what ugly girls think these days. They just aren't socially calibrated and it's not our fault. I mean imho she was quite rude.

We ditch that bar and head off to my usual stomping grounds. The same pub from last night. Tonight it is pretty empty and it's all seated mixed sets with even pairs. And apparently it's blond night. What the hell did I do to the universe? We stay here for one drink and then head to a dance club across the street. We get in our 3rd drinks of the night and head to the dance floor. I start doing my new tutting routine because I wanna practice it. An HB8 gets really interested and starts dancing with me and drags me and Mav deep into the dance floor. Of course her rough friend is on a date with a dude who brought a friend too. My girl obviously doesn't like her guy and starts grinding with me. At one point she stops dancing just to watch me. I only know this bc Mav told me later. Eventually, her friend drags her back away and I have missed my main window of opportunity. Me and Mav get some drinks at the bar and talk about it. We go back and he drags the girl over and says I like her. She is still interested and super drunk. We are on the corner of the dance floor. I am going to be honest here, I did EVERYTHING wrong. I started acting like an afc. For some reason, if I am in 1on1 with a girl before comfort, I have no idea what to say. This girl can't hear my anyways and it is rough! I mean she sticks in for like 10 minutes while her ugly friend keeps reaching out to save her and she just ignores it. I mean I try to run my American routines, cold reads etc.... But it just falls flat. I went in with super high value and blew it. I need to figure out what to do in this situation. I know I am acting wrong! I mean I can get massive IOIs from my dancing, but then it's too loud to talk at all. I really need to pull the girl away from the speakers to open. Grrr. I think I need to learn some purely non-verbal DHVs. I think I will ask on the Lounge and see.


So after tanking with this girl, we head off to my old afterhours. I haven't been here in ages, and by ages I mean a week. I am thinking that I know my favorite bartender won't be there, but at least I don't wanna run into the girl that broke up me and Sparkle. But we all know she's gonna be there. Anyways, in line outside the girl in front of me sniffs her friend, so I immediately open. I get blown out and I have no idea why. I mean they were totally rude during normal conversation. Not that I care, but normally my sets just fizzle. The bouncer compliments my new haircut and lets us in.

We walk around the bar and there aren't any sets going on. It's annoying for reals. Mav tells one girl she looks like fun and she runs away. I never know what he's gonna do, I have no idea what Juggler method really is. And I never wanna know. Being constantly surprised is the best damn part! So then of course, besides seeing my social circle enemy behind the bar, Sparkle is there. She is running around all over the place and totally ignores me. Now a ton of people didn't recognize me, but I'm really not sure. I still have residual emotions for her. Grrrrrrrr. My one-itis feelings are gone why aren't these? It's been like 3 weeks or something. Anyways, I see her and all I can think is why the hell am I not in set? We never make actual eye-contact, but I pay attention to her body language and I have the feeling she is not back with her ex anymore. But why do I care about that crap?

God finally shines upon me and my first pivot walks in with two sexy Indian girls. Now I haven't heard from this girl in 4 months. She just stopped replying to my texts and eventually I was like damn, guess it's over. But I just found out she left the country for 3 months and just didn't tell anybody. This is the girl who's best friend I fclosed in my Angel Wings LR from January. Anyways, she sees me and goes nuts. Apologizing and loving on me. And she grabs my hand to run around the bar. I feel a lot better and try not to think about Sparkle. So me and HBFitness go to find her 2 friends. One of them is super cute. The best thing about Indian girls is that they are always brunettes. PoW! So I run routines on the cuter friend, they are both cousins. Also, one is 22 with no kids and one is 29 with a kid. It makes it easy to choose a target like this! The 3 of them keep asking about an after party, but like an ass I have no booze at home. I mean how many logistics talks do I need to listen to? Anyways, at one point Fitness pulls my target away to talk to her in private. I have no idea what she said though. I am pretty sure she was too drunk to remember too! I number close and run massive kino, but I can't isolate as the bar is closing. We see them on the street again and I get more kino. Ass-grabbing, hand holding, hugging etc. I am not sure how this number will turn out. I threw comedy texts to both girls, but Mav thinks he saw the same text on Fitness' phone that I sent to my target. Hmm.. Maybe I should have more than 5 comedy texts in my arsenal? Crap. I didn't even take any pictures!

Ok. Then on the walk home there are some girls walking up the street. I open them because one girl is wearing a crappy cowboy hat from the disco club. I was on fire. But I was so drunk I can't really remember my routines. I got good kino and massive IOIs, but this other dude on the street was alone and acting super-rapey. He even tried to rip her hat off. I got really far and if he hadn't been there creeping her out I would have number-closed. I should have run routines on the friends too. It was an easy SNL right there! Damn me. Thank God the first 2000 sets don't count. Only about 1500 more to go. Anyways, I think this was my first street set and it went super well.

For a Sunday night with weak crowds I think overall it went well. I still need to work on isolation, as I don't even think of it in set. I told Mav to kick me from now on when I need to isolate. But he forgot with the Indian girl. It's not his fault, it's mine. I might get a bracelet that says ISOLATE on it or something. Anyways, I need to work on that and find out more about dancefloor game. I also need to do more tutting practice. I am also trying to memorize the kino ladder. I think if I internalize that it will make a difference. Let me know what else I can work on. Sorry for no pictures, there's really no excuse for that.

Still tutting

So I have been stretching out my wrists all day and decided to give it another go before I go out. I can do the first half of the sequence but my wrists are sore as hell. Damn! The price of dancing. I wanna work on some footwork moves too, but my room is carpeted. I will try to figure out a way to put some videos on my phone so I can practice at the gym. Maybe this dude has a podcast or something. Anyways, not watching TV is brutal. I mean I'm all bored, which sucks, but it totally forces me to work more. Fortunately, I'm going out in 40 minutes. If I were a girl, I could just start getting ready now! Well I can't find anything that I can download yet. I think there is a way to go to youtube from my phone, but can it save the video in there? I don't wanna download it away from my wlan you know? Anyways, I highly recommend building up hobbies. I am developing some theory on hobby pillars that I will post soon.

Tutting

Ok. So I have already moved on to a better instructor. That last video I posted was ok, but it wasn't really instructional enough for me. But that dude recomended a better instructor on his blog so now I'm super into this guy. I've already started learning this routine and it's so bad. If you wanna get tight at dancing you gotta check this guy out.



My only complaint is that the picture is so compressed by youtube, but damn this guy makes it really clear to me. It's exaclty at the level I'm working with and I can just learn and practice this simple routine to get my hands used to being so straight. I really love how his mom yells at him at the beginning as well.

PS. I have been practicing for about 10 minutes and my wrists are on fire. I will have to do a ton of practice to increase their flexibility.

Sunday............

Ok. It's beautiful out. Last night was massive as you can see from my fr below. I feel a lil groggy but overall not too bad. I just wanna lie on my ass and watch tv. I have all the episodes of Lost sitting on my computer, but f that! I am gonna go to the park and study Japanese. I really don't wanna lose my skill again. It's weird how life can totally change. I am forced to be more productive! I need to get back into a gym routine, but I will start that tomorrow ok? I know I need to be more vigilant and I am definately cutting a corner, but a little vitamin d could really hit the spot right now! Anyways, it is only the 2nd day of no tv and already I'm way more productive. Unforunately, that means I'm mostly blogging about not watching tv, HA! God I wonder if people reading this can detect my sense of humor. Lots of people that haven't met me yet can't tell that I'm joking a lot. So if you haven't met me yet, let me just tell you that I am funny. hA! I also need to do some routine review at the park today. My problem isn't really lack of knowledge or routines, it's more an in-field problem. It really is that I just need to run more sets. Stickler told me the other week I need about 50 more good sets, but I think to get to the level I desire I need to run about 1000 more? I mean I did like 10-15 last nite, I can't even bother to count. I am still trying to remember that the first 2000 sets don't count. It's all practice. I mean the one girl I was really interested in last night, is the one I didn't get a pic with and I didn't successfully close. Failure to isolate. I think for now I am really going to try to over-isolate as much as I can. To see where the wall is.

Stickler is 23

Now I often wait a day to write up field reports, but I am wicked drunk and I am totally forget a bunch of the sets I ran tonight. I know these are supposed to be detailed, but let's be honest, I can never remember which routines I ran in which set. I was out with Sheik Yabouti, Stickler, and a dude who's pua name I can't remember. Grrrrrrrr. It's ok because he disappeared early on and we were never in set together. Mostly we were out just chilling and I was the main one running sets. I ran a lot of sets so I will try super hard to remember for you!

My warm up sets went great. I opened every set situational tonight. Say hi to my friend it's his birthday! But most of the sets I opened were out celebrating a birthday too! I started off opening a 5set of cute brunettes at the bar and having them shout and wave to Stickler. They were all cute and I got into my transition, a cold read. One girl actually was a lawyer. Then the set stalled. This is often the case with my warm up sets. I need to stop warming up on really cute sets though. They were some of the hottest girls in the bar. We saw them all night and at a different bar, they kept waving but I never reopened. Another issue I need to work on. Anyways, they started to get me in state.

When I finally got up to the bar to order, I look over my shoulder and see a girl alone. She was ginger or brunette I think. I just start chatting to her, running my I am American stack. It's going pretty well and we chat for a few mins. Her boyfriend runs up and I start chatting to him and get him to wave to Stickler too. I get my drink and head back to chat to my boys for a while.

Then near us was a three set of girls in pink costumes. I thought they were nurses, but they had feathers on sticks with them. So I asked what their costumes were. I ran some I am a simple American routines and got deep in set. I had no target so I kind of meandered. I got Stickler to take a photo of us with their camera. He runs such dominant camera game as a wing. He got me from outside the set, into the middle with arms all over me. Really strong frame.

Ok. From this point I was in state massively and totally drunk. I had had 2 drinks, but one was a double. I know. For my size my alcohol tolerance is shockingly low. The next set I remember, was a two set in front of me and Stickler at the bar. I started yapping about the line and they turned. One of the girls is a girl I have gamed before. I chatted her and her friend up for 10 minutes or so. I joked around and ran a few routines that I can't remember. I mean I don't know how guys remember what they said 5 hours ago, I think I need to wear a damn wire.

Then behind us was a guy dressed as Rambo, a snow white, and some kind of kinky nurse. I open Rambo. Start working the set. I eventually target the nurse and get mini-isolation. I build attraction, do cold reads, read her palm and even qualify her a little. It was going pretty well for about 20 minutes I think. I just couldn't seem to hook a number close for some reason. I think my mistake her was not escalating to a full-isolation. I had massive kino from her as well! I need to work on my escalation anxiety and also simply forgetting to isolate.

I ran a one-set near the bar later for like 3 minutes before Stickler decided he hated these bartenders and wanted to go downstairs. I barely chatted to the girl. I was like don't you work at X. Which is where sheik works. She was freaked out. I was like don't you work with Sheik. She loved it. A massive emotional spike. But it was Stickler's birthday so I gotta do what he wants!!! I mean this girl was a strong hb9 but like whatever.

Ok. I think that's all my sets in the first bar, but I am probably forgetting 1 or 2! Sorry!!! Ok, we go to this cheesy disco bar next door where I have lots of success. Stickler has this girl meeting us for some reason. He doesn't really like her, but we are playing some weird game with each other. So before she arrives he decides he wants to be in set. So he opens these two girls, I realize I missed at this point that he went to school with them. He dominates the set and isolates a target, which is surprising since he has a gf and only ever wings these days. I ran super tight game on my target tho. She seemed cute enough to me. I was so bitchy to her. I really didn't care so I ran more high angle game. Like more teasing than I usually do. It worked so damn well. I have to think about that. Maybe I should up the teasing and general bitchiness in all of my sets. I kinoed a ton and escalated a lot. I got some pictures with this girl and kissed her. She kinda turned her mouth, so I just did it again. I didn't care about her reactions about 100percent. I really had no emotional response because I had no emotions.

Ok. Then the girl to see Stickler showed up. Now I snogged her once a while ago, as I met her separate from him. But I mean I am ashamed. She ain't cute. Anyways, I forget why we asked her to come. It was so awkward and I just sat there for a while messing with him, because I owe him about 20. He always pranks me and tries to trick me into opening sets of chavy cougars. Um. Ok then I saw the nurse walk by, but I didn't reopen. I have no idea why. Once I leave a set, my confidence goes down for some reason. It's another issue to work on for me. I wanted to DHV myself and so we went to the dance floor.

As soon as it's raining men came on, I had 2 girls all over me. They were both cute and I isolated one. They both totally thought I was gay, which I worked into kino escalation. Eventually, I told her I wasn't gay and kept pushing the kino. As you can see from the pictures I did well, especially as both their boyfriends were in the club. I had a lot of IOIs from my target, but I'm not a real relationship-destroyer. I mean if a girl will cheat on her boyfriend, she will cheat on me. Food for thought. But in my mind this girl was damn cute. I haven't looked at the pics yet! They were sweating so much and decided to cool off and get drinks. I got my target to go get me a jack n coke. Stickler decides he is drunk, hungry, and tired so he wants to go! So I go find the girl by the bar, get my drink, which is a Jack on ice. Oh god it burned bad. They were out of coke! Um...I got a bunch of pics with these girls and they even licked my cheek. I will post all the pics bc I love field reports with pics so damn much!!! I facebook closed them and at least they are social proof and pivots. They were pretty cool.

The point is that if I am in this disco club dancing with ANY girl, I can get any girl nearby. I am a good dancer and it makes it easy to open sets. On my own I find it quite difficult. I think if I have a guy that can dance with me it might work as well, but I am not sure. Stickler was dancing quite well, but this was our first time together at this venue. Overall I had a really nice night.

OMG!!! I forgot the most important thing. I have a giant glossy ladybug sticker next to my right eye right now. I grabbed the sticker on my way out the door today and I was like where is the hardest place to put this? I was almost shaking with AA on the way to the club. I was really trying to challenge myself. I think it made my sets stronger, as a LOT of girls complimented it. I have pics of it too don't worry. Ok I'm gonna check the pics now to see if I forgot any sets!

Popping Lesson 1

Ok. I really love searching for knowledge but I am always then too lazy to study. What an issue. Anyways, I found a sick instructional video that I am going to work on for this week. I think I might put a mask on and post some videos of me popping. That might really put some pressure onto me? Anyways, this Korean dude totally brings the noise. His section on tutting is what I'm going to work on this week. The middle, in front of the body, section is exactly what I was last working on when I basically stopped dancing a few years ago. Basically, I haven't practiced in like 4-5 years. Just because no one around me was into dancing or at my level, so I wasn't inspired to improve. But Soul is a good popper and Stickler has a wicked slide that I am super jealous of, so now I am getting back into it. Anyways, he is calling 2 things 1 thing imho. Where I come from we call the part I'm interested in boxes and then the really Egyptian stuff tutting. But I can see how the way he does it is all tutting. Anyways, this is exactly what I am interested in right now.



Oh ya, and I just got a sick harlequin mask yesterday so maybe I will start posting videos!

Learning to Pop

So now I am totally into learning to pop. I have a massive bay window and some people have already caught my doing liquid in my room. I'm listening to my favorite dj and cleaning and I am just hitting a groove! Anyways, I am trying to find the best instructional videos on youtube. I think that Eric is the best liquid dancer and it seems that Mr. Wiggles is the king of pop? I have heard of him before, but have you? Check out this killer video.



What do you guys think? I wanna like really expand my dancing. It's a great exercise. Once I move into London, I will try to find a good dance studio. But for now it's practicing in my room for me!

I miss TV!!!

I'm already going through withdrawals. How insane is that? I just did my first Japanese lesson in like 6 months and I'm sitting here wicked bored. I am into that pain phase for reals. What is wrong with me. My tv problem was worse than I thought. I have a malaise. I have a feeling there are going to be a lot of posts like this coming your way!!! I mean I am more productive than ever. I vacuumed for the first time in a month, cleaned the bathroom, and started to clean my room. But now I'm twitchy and my stuff is all just on my bed. Welcome to the inside of my mind!! Anyways, I will keep this up. I need to have an uncluttered mind. Another thing I'm thinking about a lot is headphones when I walk through town...I mean I'm mostly listening to the Howard Stern show so that I'm heavily distracted, but it also massively affects my state. I can't jump from that mode to street opening.........a lot to think on but I can't give up more things from my life just yet!

Watching TV

So I have been thinking lately of a time when I was 18. It was the end of my senior year and I really wanted to focus, so I could graduate. I heard a story of a man who had commited one massive act of violence and changed his life forever. After his act, he learned 5 languages and changed his life. He one day got so sick of being empty, that he smashed his tv. I also read a fascinating book at the time called Amusing Ourselves to Death. This book really talks about how watching TV can lower a persons intelligence and life prospects significantly. I really changed my life during that time, went to the gym a lot and was in pretty good chape. Of course eventually I started watching TV again.

I am thinking of giving up TV again. It will free up massive amounts of time in my life that I am just wasting. I mean I am pretty productive right now in some areas of my life, but I could be better. But right now I am thinking of all the shows I will miss and how much I want to know what happens. But why do I attach value to meaningless entertainment? I have been up for over 2 hours today and all I have done is play video games and watch TV. Now there is nothing inherently wrong with entertainment. But my room is still a mess. I need to clean it, I need to sort out a ton of files on my computer, arrange a party tonight for Stickler's birthday, empty the dishwasher, put away some laundry, read up on hired-gun game, go to the gym, go to the park, record shop, look for more jobs, work on sorting out a work visa.......... You get the idea.

I want to be so much more productive than I am. If you guys are keeping track, this is my 100th post! So I need to do something special. So, here it is. I am not going to watch any TV for the next 8 weeks. I am not going to watch any movies on my computer, unless it is on a date. I think adding this change to my life will really move me forward. I am also not going to play Civilization during this time. There is something about that game that makes days disappear for me. It needs to stop. This process is all about change and excising the bad things from our lives. I need to spend more time writing music and doing things that I love and will be proud of. This is a really hard decision for me, since there are some shows I'm really into on tv right now, but growth demands sacrifice. As they say, pain is weakness leaving the body. It's time to let the weakness out of my mind!

Goodbye Friends

So I have a friend who I used to think was a natural, until I realized he was just not picky. He will hook up with almost any age and everything from a 3 to a 10. It's interesting to see his technique. We have been kinda friends for a few months ago. At a party at my house a few weeks ago, he cheated on his girlfriend in front of me. Now he made me believe he would never cheat, so I had started to become friends with the girl. I wrote a lot about this at the time. Anyways, it really affected my faith in the English people. I mean somebody has to not cheat on this island right? Anyways, I was still hanging out with him and his girl until about 2-3 weeks ago, when they started shunning me.

I have no idea why and it took me this long to notice. I really don't care. If I were to guess, I would say that he cut me out to prevent me from ratting him out, which I wouldn't do, but I really don't know. I just noticed that they both have been ignoring my texts and ims for a while now. Since I text a bunch of friends at a time, I simply didn't notice them ignoring me.

The point is that my inner game has grown to the point that I am simply not bothered by their bad behavior. I have strength in myself and I can always make new friends. And I have been. There is a part of me that would like to find out why they cut me off, purely do to curiosity, but I really can't be bothered. I sent the girl an email asking if they were really shunning me, but she never replied. To be honest at my age I really don't respect people who won't just say what they are thinking. I think avoiding confrontation, rather than telling the truth is really immature. And I really subscribe to Badboy's theory that we not accept bad behavior from the people in our lives. Anyways, when friends start to pull away, just let it. As your inner game grows, you will start to make new friends that match the new you. And your real friends will start to stick out!

Job Hunt

So I have been talking to my dad a lot this week. And I love my work, but moving into London means that I have to build a new client base. I love studying at school, but I hate being poor. So I decided to get a job in London. I'm hoping to switch to a work visa, so that I don't have the stress of paying for school controlling my right to live here. Anyways, sometimes I forget that I am really qualified in teaching. I sent out my resume to 20 jobs Tuesday night. I really didn't expect to hear back for a few days. After the application deadlines. At 901 Wednesday morning, I get an email asking to set up an interview to teach at a University. How insane is that? DJ and uni lecturer. Anyways, the pay is almost 3x what I am scraping together now, plus I can still work as a tutor in my own time and build a company with my friends.

The lesson I'm leaning is about how MM and inner game apply to job seeking. My old frame was that I am so lucky to even get an interview, I should run there and beg for a job. But now I realize that recruiters like confidence, just as women do. So when I called to set up the interview, I was totally confident. Of course there was no answer and I got the machine. I left a message because I want the job and I'm normal. But then I thought about calling back before I left the house for the day and I started thinking about how I should never call a girl that fast! But then I remembered that it's a job and not to over analyze.

I called and got the guy. He kept trying to move the interview to times inconvenient to me. I finally got a time-slot that is after my hair appointment tomorrow. That's right. I'm cutting off my massive locks. But to be fair, I booked the appointment before I decided to get a real job. I am ready for a new rock star haircut and I have a really good idea. I can't wait to post pictures on the forum. So anyways the key issue is my frame.

My mindset is that I am the scarce resource. I am a young professionaly educator with a lot of experience and a fistful of references. It's not jobs that are scarce. I am an employment selector. For once I'm not nervouse about a job interview. I still got 20 more lines in the water. It's great to see the game rippling through my life, improving everything it touches.

My dad

Now I have written a lot on here and gone to great depths, so I will share with you something killer that happened today. But first the back story. For a few months now, , my dad has had the link to my main facebook page. And if you know me, which you soon will!, I post pics of me with new HBs on there several times a week. It's how I social proof and really helps me feel like a stud-muffin. I have talked to him a lot about my inner game progression and how I've begun to understand the matrix. About a month ago, I knew my bill from my bootcamp was coming in the mail. I mean it's on my credit card statement which my dad always reads, since I don't live in America. My dad is chill as hell. I'm actually super lucky in that department.

I told him how I had spent a weekend learning how to get good with girls. Meet them in clubs etc. He was like damn, if that thing is the reason you are meeting these hot girls that it is definitely worth it! We had a good hour-long chat about how my life is getting better and better. I try to be really open with my family, because I massively hate secrets. When you have a secret it can have power over you. I can go off on a tangent here, but let's just say I'm pretty damn open. I mean just read this blog. Anyways, I told him a lot about my personal development and my pop was really supportive.

This weekend both of my parents are in town visiting me for the first time in a year. It's pretty cool to have them around, but also strange because I am so different. Today I had a three hour train ride with them and the whole time my mom read a book while I had a conference with my dad. I went into a lot more detail. I explained the skeleton of the emotional progression model, and how I understand women and people so much more. So he had me do a few body language reads on people on the train and he loved it. He was really interested in frames, iois, and just everything. I told him my current opener and a couple of cold read transitions I am developing. I told him about direct and indirect and how I had my massive Social Circle close the other week. In the end he asked to read that LR. So I let him.

Now my dad is a natural. The more I learn in the game, the more I finally understand his success. He was a successful athlete and then a successful businessman, with many adventures along the way. I have always wanted to be as good with women as him, but as with most naturals, he did not know how to teach what he was doing.

He read my LR and was really impressed. He really understands the world we live and and what we are trying to accomplish. He asked a lot about the new guys I'm hanging out with. He asked if the guys who are really good look down on the new guys in the scene. I explained that to get good you have to be alpha, not just pretend, and that is about value giving. The great teachers in this scene teach because they love to share. My dad's questions were intuitive and it was really cool

After they train ride, my parents took me and Soul out to dinner. I told Soul how my dad knew what's up and he immediately started talking about teaching 1on1s in Sweden this weekend. He was really going into detail and saying how cool it is that my parent's know what's going on when I flagged him down and let him know that only my dad knows that much. I just told my mom that he's Hitch, which she really loved. We had a great dinner and my dad and Soul talked a ton. They really connected. My dad has a really deep appreciation for how I have changed and he really saw where my destination is. Soul could tell from my dad's stories and body language, how he is a natural. Overall it was a really great dinner. I think I'm the only guy in the community who's dad knows what's going on.

It was really good to be able to share that with Soul, as he has been great for me. I have learned a lot from him, just by being around him, about fashion, fitness, and value-giving. We went to a really great restaurant. He let me crash on his floor a few weeks ago, which was really nice. He didn't expect anything back from me. So I wanted to share a great night out with my parent's, who are both legends. Overall today was a really cool day and a lot of my future development will be affected by it. Will I give my dad this blog address, probably not. If I did, I wouldn't change a thing and I think I go into a little too much detail for him to handle. But if he asks, I probably will. Oh and I didn't tell him anyone's community names, or my own. We gotta keep some secrets right?

challenge feedback

so sheriff just posted some feedback to me on the lounge. I am on the right track with learning how much i can get away with. But he asked if i was chickening out by opening mixed sets. For me these are still a challenge and this was my first mixed set since bc. But he makes a strong point. Challenging for me is not challenging for someone else. I have never gone direct post afc. One of the greatest pulls of my life was direct. When i was seventeen i walked up to a girl at a party i had liked for a while and asked her to make out. She said yes. And i was her first kiss. So i know direct can work. I just need to push myself harder and faster. I am also still deathly afraid of day game. But i think i need to push myself harder. I want to become great fast. I really need to focus on braddock. The first two thousand foot count. But its hard. I didnt do any sets on the tube today. But i need to do this mission. I an motivated by my desire to win!

Tyler Durden

Now I know as an avid MM practitioner I am probably supposed to hate this guy. I certainly disagree with some of his current theory as far as natural game. Well really I disagree with what it becomes when filtered through the forums. His explanation is amazing. I really want my Venusian Arts to match the Martial Art of Jeet Kun Do. Bruce Lee developed a style where you customize your martial art. I fight differently based on weight, height, agility, and a thousand other factors. Someone a foot shorter should not fight the same way, yet for thousands of years this was the martial arts practice. Lee revolutionized the entire Martial Arts world with one concept. And I believe this is the core of the Natural Game debate. Really, this is a just a great PR move. People are obsessed with nature, the environment, and going green, so of course they love a system that is congruent with this. For this reason I am developing a system called Organic Game. It will be the first pickup style that is completely carbon neutral. No harm to the environment. No animal testing.

Actually, I see a lot of value in this type of system. It's just that right now there is a strong trend to hate on routine based game. I think that if my system works for me, that is really the only measure that matters. It's so easy to get obsessed with impressing online puas whom I have never even met. What insanity. Of course my current rant is very derivative of Tyler Durden's current blog. I mean maybe I shouldn't advertise for him or whatever, but really I just want people that come to me looking for knowledge to know where more great knowledge is.

It is so easy to become obsessed with impressing the wrong groups of people. I really feel like TD has been reading my mind lately, I mean I just posted about how I am becoming too into impressing people I don't need to impress. I keep shifting who I want to impress, instead of actually breaking that poisonous cycle. I mean I post a lot on the forums right now, because I want to bring a lot of traffic here. The more people that read my blog, the more I work on updates and my game. It is a way of holding myself accountable. Again there is the risk that I shift too much need into the wrong place. Is it possible to actually live a life needing affirmation from nobody? I'm really not sure.

What I do know is that the best way to become a master pua is to take something from every style, however, most people approach this in the wrong way. They first read the game, go online, and download all the info they can get their hands on. They end up with a plethora of information and after 2-3 months pick a guru. It's the only way to keep from being overwhelmed. Then they forget the other schools, or hate on them, but they never seem to go back. I think this is totally the wrong approach. Instead we should choose one style as our foundation. Really master it and then build on that style based on our personal needs. I mean there are so many guys out there pretending to be funny and it's just not congruent with them, they have other skills. I am naturally funny, so my approach to humor is very different. My game is very humor-based because it suits my personality. I wing with guys who study RSD, Juggler, and Mystery. I don't really care what style someone practices as long as it works for them. It's the same with martial arts. I don't' care if the guy next to me studies kung fu, I care if it works for him.

I have no problem with people who use Natural Game. It's totally irrelevant. What I do hate is people who decide to post about how Natural Game is the answer to our pua prayers. I mean can you really read a book on how to act natural? But it's fine, just don't get trapped in Group Think.

Like I said read TD's latest blog is what inspired this post. Each of his posts is like 100 pages long, but it's well worth the journey. Find a base style, but don't be afraid to add other elements to it. I am always adding routines or jokes to my game. The core will always be Mystery Method, but that is just my foundation. I haven't actively studied Tae Kwon Do in ten years, but it's my base martial arts style. When push comes to shove, I fall back on the first kick I ever learned. Don't give up your style because it's no longer trendy.

Cleaning My Room

Right now I am avoiding cleaning my room. So I thought I should blog about it. When my room is dirty, I am telling myself that I don't think I'm bringing a girl home. It's a conversation with myself. And I need to break the cycle. When my room is really tidy I feel really tight in my mind and directed. Clean room clean mind. I am actually mixing writing this with actually cleaning my room. ;D. It's important to maintain your seduction location. It is very powerful. By keeping it ready, there is no hesitation in the back of my mind and my targets will sense this strength of frame. Everything in my room is actually designed to convey something very powerful about me. I don't have anything in here that a girl might find weird. Everything is a spark fo a conversation in Comfort. And that is really important. A few weeks ago my house mate had a girl in his room and failed to close. I asked her about it the other day and she told me she thought he was a weirdo because he has a Klingon Battle Axe on his wall. This girl is notorious for the amount of guys she enjoys, so her opinion counts even more. She is harder to turn off. In my room I have materials for song writing and sketching. These express the artistic component of my personality. I have martial arts uniforms, items from Japan, a proper backpack, dj equipment, a massive computer I use to write music, and a fiew simple pieces of art. I have the books I use to teach. Everything is designed to be a part of my personality. I actually didnt have to change a lot about my room when I got into the game. I just need to keep it clean. Girls care about cleanliness a lot more than boys. They are judging everything we can't see. So if it even crosses my radar, I know a girl will see it and ask about it. So look around your room and see if there is anything on the walls that you don't want a girl to ask you about for 20 minutes. Just like I mentioned in my passion article, congruence is the important component. You can have comic book posters, if you can really explain why they are your passion. But if you have something in your room you don't want a girl asking about, remove it.

I have about 30 original Star Wars figures in my room. They are displayed on a shelf. Every single person that enters my room asks about them. I don't love Star Wars, my old one-itis did. But they are an amazing litmus test. The last girl I fclosed shit-tested me about them. She was like why do you have something so weird in there? I broke through her test. Later she told me she actually loved the movie. So these are actually a catalyst for an easy shit-test. Instead of getting a surprising one during LMR, I always get the same one.

I have added some accessories to my room since my game improved. I have candles all over the joint, I have a green rope light, and I have lighters near the candles. I have a big candle that smells of roses and a bunch of little tea lights in different colored lamps. They all make my room really sexy. The rope lights have different settings and they really make the girls go wild. It's not light and it's not dark. It's really great. You want to make your room a place where a woman can be comfortable. There are a lot more elements I will be adding to my environment in the near future. But since I might be moving in a month, I am waiting.

Oh ya. I have a ton of kinds of condoms in my dresser next to the bed. But they are all in 3packs. You don't exactly want to break out a box of 500 condoms in front of a girl, but you also don't want to run out! In my old apartment where I lived alone, I had condoms hidden everywhere. And I recommend this if you can get away with it. Have condoms under each corner of your bed, in the bathroom, under the couch. Tape some under the toilet or in the tank if you have to. Condom time is a massive state break, don't make it worse by running out of the room. And don't decide it's better to have sex bareback than to risk losing the deal. Be safe. Keep it real.

The Architect

So earlier today I was taking to a pua with a lot more experience than me. During our conversation, I kept qualifying myself and trying to think of good things to say. We were just chatting on msn, and yet I felt like I was talking uphill. I have decided that I want this guy to like me, so I started acting strange, instead of just natural. I have shifted a lot of my girl issues, to other puas instead. Now I care more about what other guys in the scene think, and there is no reason for this. His frame is so powerful, that it just kept absorbing mine. I mean I have a full life with tons of good friends, afc and pua, and plenty of girls. I only realized it during our convo today. It's strange how I still have this innate need to be liked, that releases itself by me acting stange. Well,not strange, but appeasing. It's better that it happens between me and other puas, but I need to outgrow it as a whole on my path to becoming alpha. I see it now so I can work on it. This stuff is a journey, so it's important to constantly pay attention to things. I'm seeing a new layer of the matrix. It's not an issue unless I don't fix it. So maybe next time you're talking to other guys in the scene, you'll think about the frame you've created.

Social Circle part deux

So as you know I had a massive Social Circle success. You can read about it lower down. I have great faith in the teachings of Mr M and Braddock on this issue. I have decided on a new Social Circle target. This time I am saying something in advance. To put a pressure on me and also to provide a more measurable experiment. I saw this girl last night who works in a bar I go to occasionally. It's a bar for like indie bands to play in. The girl is stunning and I know a lot of guys are into her. I was going to start my project last night, but I was totally obsessed with Sheriff's challenge and I would have gone into an over-complimenting routine. I would say I have a level of basic recognition with her and nothing more. I have very low status in this venue as I'm not in an emo band. I believe it will take me 6 weeks to create that status and convert it into a solid close.

I will report every time I see this girl, go to this venue, or take actions to increase my social status. Unfortunately, she wasn't working the night I wore my tigger suit. I have told a couple of my friends that I'm into this girl. Of course I haven't talked to her that much yet, as yesterday was the first time I saw her post-afc.

I will explain my first phase strategy. I will build up status by befriending more bands and using my existing tenuous connections in this scene. I will leverage and do more cold approaches in this venue. I will also use my pivots more here to expand my female connection base in this scene. It's important to create status and an identity in this new social circle. I will report more next week.

My main challenge will be one of my kinda-friends, who likes to go after girls I like. I will of course be prepared this time and convert him into my ally.

One-itis

A lot of guys are still posting on every forum about one-itis. I have hesitated to post about mine, because I am so not cured. Since I put distance between me and her, I have sarged several hundred sets, fclosed 2 hotter girls and become a minor jedi. I am socially calibrated and pretty happy. I even have one-itis right now for another inappropriate girl, HBSparkle. Anyways, I was so deep that I thought she would fall in love with me, marry me, ditch the other guys she fclosed behind my back. I mean if there are levels of one-itis I was level 9. I only say this because I have heard Sheriff's oneitis story. HA. Anyways.
She is so sexy, smart, and beautiful. She is half Japanese and half Ukrainian. She is really skinny and her body is insane. The moment I saw her I wanted her. She had a long-distance boyfriend, but I didn't' care. He was a million miles away. We were in mystical Japan. It took me 6 months to get between her legs. And it was worth every moment. It was beautiful and perfect. Of course afterwards, she told me it was a mistake and flew to America to spend a week fclosing him. Ouch! I still shagged her again when she got back. Our relationship was sexual for exactly 7 months. She loved me and we had a deep deep rapport. I won't say our feelings weren't real, but I did everything wrong. I put her on a pedestal. I tried to control her through passive aggression. To blame her for my oneitis would be disingenuous. I know now all the mistakes I made that year. She fell for another loser who treated her like crap. She started off shagging him behind my back, then she shagged me behind his back. Classy. I never stopped loving her. I still do. But that love is in my pocket now. Not on my face. I was obsessed. Deeply. She was the first girl I ever told I loved. And I was 25. There are a lot of deep issues I could cover here. The point is that it was deep and real. To call it less is a lie. I planned on writing a book about our love. I have written a song about it that was so good it got me into my current music university. If you hear it, it will shatter your heart. But I read The Game.
It changed me. I am not a chump anymore. I am a jedi. I will not let a girl control me again. Instead of emailing her everyday, I have emailed her 5 times in 6 months. I don't wait for her replies with baited breath. And actually for the first three months I didn't email her. She re-initiated email contact. I live on a different continent. So that I can become strong. But I am a drastic person.

If you are suffering one-itis. Do not say that your girl is different. I guarantee that mine is better. And guess what, they are all the same. It's their dna. Women respond to AFCs the same way everywhere. Cut her out of your life. Grew. Learn the skills. You can even tell yourself that you will learn to be a Jedi like Paladin so that one day you can go back and win her heart. That's ok. Just don't' be surprised if after the 1-2 years it takes, you don't want to go back.

Will I go back to mine? I have no idea. I rarely think about her. I know my emotional triggers. Writing this blog is pretty tough to be honest. But there are just too many posts on the forums on this issue. You have to break free. Or you will die.

Tigger Suit

Ok. This should have gone 3 posts ago. Before the ones about the loser guys in school that I over-valued. I went out last night to see my friend in a battle of the bands. I wore my full body tigger suit for two reasons - to support him and because I was afraid to. I think it's really important to do things I'm socially afraid of. The whole world was staring at me, but my game was super strong. Every girl I saw I talked to. So many opened me. It's not even funny. All these guys thought I was lame, but it just shows how poorly socially calibrated they all were. I really developed a deep relationship with my new pivot. She is a strong HB8 blond with 4 orbiters currently. She is 18 and actually really cool. I will get so many girls when she is around. Her personality is really powerful, so I have to avoid that gravity well!
Anyways, I rocked the suit and I have a shedload of badboy photos of me with girls. I got deep into comfort with this blond stewardess, but my friend kept taking pictures of us talking so eventually she got creeped out. She was a blond so I didn't care, but seriously why can't I have friends who don't creep out girls? I can't really remember all of my sets, but it was a good exercise in frame control. Every girl opened me in a way that tested my confidence. I recommend this kind of inner game exercise to everyone out there. It's not as intense as what Hypnotica teaches, but it really helped me!
Sorry for forgetting all the details of each set this night, but if you become my friend you can see the 60 pictures I posted on facebook. Safe.

Sheriff's Challenge 1 - part 1

Sheriff has started posting challenges. I really think he is one sound dude. I was really pushed into a new region with this challenge. Our first mission was to over-compliment a girl until we get rejected. I creeped a few girls out a little bit, but I never got a full rejection......


Ok. So I went out tonight, on a slow Wednesday to complete this mission. It is tough for me, because I live in a small town where I see the same people often. It really changes your frame to go into sets with the intention of getting blown out by being overly complimentary. I have a lot of trouble getting blown out of set because I'm an American in the UK and I get soooo much free leeway. I realized that I was kinda bitching out, so I got my AFC house mate to choose which girls I would over-compliment. At our local bar, he immediately points to a mixed 5set, with a super hot HB. I don't hesitate. I walk up and open the 2 guys with my current opinion opener. I drag in the 3 girls and start just going on about how they are beautiful sisters, even though they are of different races. I meander this way, telling everyone how beautiful they are when another girl joins the set and is clearly one guys girlfriend. I go oh my god! Is that your wife? You guys are an amazing couple. You are both so beautiful, you HAVE to make a baby! Right now! It will be the best baby ever. I go on this way for a while. I never actually get blown out, I just keep running the set dancing monkey style, staying in the attraction phase and never going after my target. Ir was really hard and I learned a lot about what I can get away with. I could tell when they left, that they all thought I was a little weird, but that was it.

My second set took ages. My house mate pointed out this girl who looked so young. I really don't wanna make anyone feel bad! But eventually an opportunity presented and I opened her and her boyfriend. Again the girl was pretty cute. He is a musician and she's a painter. I go off on how they must be so amazing to be so talented. I really go on. I say when are you gonna make her an honest woman? You are the perfect couple. It gets super akward, so I plow. I talk about their super-artistic baby. How they are both cute. All this jazz. Again I never get blown out of set. It's so surprising. I am learning a LOT from this challenge. They both kinda liked me when I finally left the set to go pee. I had to go so bad I could taste it.

I am a little confused about the goal though. Am I supposed to compliment until it's super creepy and I get blown out of set, or just go over the top like I did in these two sets? I still of course have three more sets to go, but I really wanted to get started right away. I honestly cannot believe I told two 18yearolds to get married and make a baby right away. Killer Experience.

losers pt 2

So after class none of the dudes talked to any of the girls. They all pointed through the glass at me right at the end of their song. It was cool. I think it's that I have learned to not care. If these girls don't want it, the next ones will. The theory of abundance is so powerful. Scarcity increases value, even if it's only in my mind. I chatted to 3 hot girls on the way to lunch and these guys, who are really just focused on impressing each other didn't talk to any. It really shows the importance of paradigm, or world view. Too many guys are focused on the wrong things. I mean I can have a ton of guys thinking I'm getting laid all the time, or I can get laid all the time. Which one should you focus on? So stop caring what afc guys think. I find that the better my game gets, the worse other guys assumptions. And if you think about it deeply, this is exactly what I want. The importance is not hating on these guys, it's realizing that the old me would have been trapped in their cold lonely world. So if you are reading this blog, then you are already ahead of 99% of the guys out there. Keep on fighting. Remember I've only been in the game 5 months and I've shattered my old universe.

losers

so im in a lecture right now. My class is all boys that want to be music producers. Today we are recording five girls. They are just ok singers. But all there guys are going nuts being around girls. Its strange because they were just teasing me about my photos from last night. I was wearing a tiger suit. There are photos of me with over a dozen hot girls. I live in a world of abundance. I thought if there guys i barely know can joke about me surrounded by girls that they must get even more girls. I was dead wrong. They all asked the girls out for a drink after class. And the first thing the girls said was that these guys have to pay. And they probably will! What an expression of their low value. The one guy here who i thought had game is the one trying the hardest. Thank god i can see the matrix. I will write more on this later but i am doing a lot of thinking. It's funny that i thought these guys were smooth based on how they talk to men but when i see them around women i can see the reality. I just raised my arms and all five girls mirrored me. Leader of men.

Keep on Trucking

So today I woke up and I did not wanna go to the gym, but I went anyways. I have gotten better in some areas without noticing. I ran almost the whole way with no problems today. Even the really steep parts. It really affects how I feel inside. Even though some days, I don't feel skinnier, I do feel healthier. I feel faster and more alert. It's so great to have the gym as part of my life. My weight is still droppping and my strength is increasing. So when you're thinking about game, I recomend adding this element. Can you be great with women without exercise? Certainly. But it makes it easier!

Back into MMA

So I have trained in martial arts on and off for 14 years now. In fact it's my anniversary either this month or next month of starting tae kwon do when I was fourteen. I move a lot so I am always starting up new styles. I hold the rank just below black in 5 martial arts. That is probably a world record. I was really nervous last night working out with two guys that are bigger than me. I have a ton of awards, titles, and belts from all over the world and yet I still think I am crap. I have a massive inner game hole in martial arts. And I have no idea why. Both guys last night were impressed with my abilities. I haven't studied striking in 5 years. In Japan I mostly studied kendo, sword fighting. But I was pleasantly surprised that I still have some moves in my brain. I think it's really good to have martial arts in my life. I can't tell you how sore I am now. I woke up this morning and my traps (the muscle above my shoulder) and my calves hurt like death. What a strange couple of pains. But it just feels really good to flex my muscles again, especially in such a relaxed environment.

I hope that all of this working out will really help me to grow. I really need to work on my inner game with fighting. I actually abhor street violence and I have created a universe where nobody ever fights. I am learning and growing constantly. The truth is on an objective level I am a very competent fighter and if I wanted to focus my life on that, I could go pro within about a year. I would just have to keep dropping weight and spend all my sarging time on advancing my mma skills. Anyways, this isn't about how amazing I am, but more about how my objective and subjective realities aren't matched. Could I take either of the guys I train with in a fight? I really have no idea. I do know that their higher confidence levels will make more of a difference than anything else. I really felt so comfortable training with them though. It is a really relaxed environment where I can give and take criticism without feelings being involved. We all just enjoy training and want to get better.

Anyways, I hope that you guys can all keep adding things to your lives that you love. And as you learned from my last post, if you start a fight with me don't bother trying to break my magic ankles. ;D

Magic Ankles

So last night I discovered my newest talent, and a magical DHV it is. I was at the gym working out with 2 wings who are also into mixed martial arts. We worked our way through some muay thai and then we went straight to the ju-jitsu. I asked them to show me some advanced ankle breaks, when lo we discovered, my ankles are unbreakable! It is strange and also awesome. It explains why I really don't do ankle breaks myself, it just doesn't look like it should hurt to me. Anyways, Rob and Matt both spun my ankle in a lock almost 360 degrees and nothing. Totally painless. It's really strange but I will find a way to make it an interesting story soon. Just wanted to share my most recent discovery here.

Alias

Dudes! This video is so funny. I can't stop watching it. I ran into it a few weeks ago and I have been loving it ever since. If you haven't seen it yet, get ready to rock out. It's a masterful parody of Mystery. It is also a great reason why negging is old technique. Modern theory is disqualifitcaion theory. So no more negging!

Sex and the City

So I have just watched my way through all six seasons of this. It is very powerful. I personally don't love the characters, but there is so much to learn. It's unbelievably educational. It provides a really great insight into the minds of women. Almost every issue of inner game is covered throughout the show. This is a great resource and can provide you with unlimited amounts of comfort information. Just the other week I went down on HBSparkle while she watched an episode in my room. Gangsta! I have learned so much from this show. Now that I can see some of the matrix, I really understand all the underlying frames in this show. You can really see how much the women are attracted to passion, wealth, status, strong frames, and future projections. If you really wanna move your game up a level, I recommend this. I mean we are all at home playing video games anyways, why not watch this at the same time? And believe me when you can talk about this show with women, they will adore you!

Body Language - Be Sexual

This is one my many current sticking points. Sometimes I feel so sexual and sometimes I feel so not. I have been working on Cajun's theory of body language. He suggests studying Jim Morrison to really see how to be sexual without doing anything. It's really powerful but also difficult. Whenever I run my Jim Morrison people ask why I'm so tired. It takes a lot of work and I'm not totally sure that it's for everyone, but it is good to see people who exude sexuality. I have been perusing youtube looking for a good video to study. I think this one is pretty good.



When he grabes the mic, it's just so sexual. It's really powerful. I will continue to work on this and post more. But I definately recomend reading Cajun's posts on this issue: Body Language #1, Body Language #2, Body Language #3. This stuff is really powerful, but I think it will take ages to really learn this stuff. There is just so much good material out there on how to adjust your life and improve it all.

Liquid

So I have mentioned a few times to people that dancing is one of my top DHVs, but a lot of people in the UK aren't familiar with my specific style of dancing. I was bouncing around youtube today and I found some videos of the most famous dancer in my scene, Eric. This video of him is eight years old, but it is still some of the tightest liquid I have seen. Next time I go out I will make some video of myself dancing. Take a peep at this guys massive skills and let me know what you think!


Eric from Liquid Pop Collective

Rules of Seduction

So they ran a special on TV here in the UK about the seduction community. Like everything mainstream, it bend towards the negative. Which is great for us. We don't really want it to get too crowded do we? Anyways, take a peep and leave you're own opinions for sure.

FR - Crazy Days

So normally I only put my frs on my blog, but this girl was smoking so I want to throw her pics on the lounge.
I went out tonight with a couple of new wings. First I met up with a guy who's been in the scene for three years, Sheik Yerbouti, but he's been with a gf for about 6months now. Really nice guy and good frame. He was mostly out to chill and wing me bc he's been buddies with Stickler for years. The first club was super weak and empty, but I did run into my HBPolish girls out for a birthday. They showed me so much love. A shame no one was there to see it. We changed venues to a more popular student bar. In line for drinks I ask the girl in front of me if she's waiting in line. She says yes and turns back around. Sheik turns to me and goes that doesn't count. I was like damn man! Inside my head I was thinking, yes my first opener! AHahah oh well. I immediately opened 2 more girls. What I said was slighty less inane. That conversation lasted about 45 seconds. Sheik allowed that one to count.
We sat down and chatted about what kinda girls we like. As per usual, I had to convince him of my type. I pointed out a pair of brunettes that I liked. Solid 9s in my opinion. He was surprised. We have really different tastes. Which makes him an excellent wing. A few minutes later, we circle looking for sets. The only good one is these two girls. I'm not really warmed up, but I really wanted to impress Stickler's friend you know? I use my opinion opener. About 15 seconds in, Sheik walks up. We chat for a while. It's a seated set and really akward for us to lock in, but we manage to score seats. My girl is super quiet and boring, but beautiful. I really just can't get any good conversation out of her. Part of it was that she had just done a shot of tequila and was feeling rough. Even slapping her chest as you do. I plowed for maybe 10 minutes? It was kinda rough because they were my real warm up set. I kept running out of material or things to talk about, even tho she is a law student and I come from a family of lawyers. Eventually we eject. It was just so boring.
Some boring stuff happens but then Sheik decides to head home. He's got work early tomorrow morning. Fair play. He's a sound dude. I decide I just don't have the energy to sarge alone, even though I am massively in-state. I was even talking to everyone on the street. Right as I'm halfway home, Rob calls and tells me he's on the way from his other venue with his wing. They link up with me and we go to Flares. It's a cheesy disco bar. We are surrounded by old lady chavs. I keep working them trying to stay in-state, but it is an uphill battle. I look back in the line and I see a smoking-hot HB. I had seen her outside another club earlier and pointed her out to Sheik, but it was impossible to open her at that time. Inside the club, they are behind me near the bar. Inside my head I have an epic AA battle. It only lasts a few seconds but feels like centuries. I don't want to live a life of regret. So I open one of the friends. I work all three girls and run some of my standard material. I run more high-end game on the brunette as her two blond friends are 5s and she is clearly a 9. I get some hug-level kino. This girl is really beautiful but I stick to my playbook. They are in line for drinks and eventually I feel like the energy might go down. Both wings have disappeared and I am left wondering why they didnt' back me up. I find them and we chill for a while. I tell Rob I need his help with isolating my HB and he comes with me to reopen the set. I kino the brunette and get mini-isolation. But I am in an IOI desert. She is just giving me nothing. I mean it's not that she isn't trying. It's just so minimal. She wants to travel, but she doesn't know where. She wants to go everywhere. This kind of thing. She's not failing to try and qualify, she is failing to qualify. I mean I really want to be attracted to more than her body. For me qualification is more than a phase. Again, I feel like it's just going nowhere. It's no bad, but it's also not good. I just run out of routines to stack. I basically need more experience....and we eject.
Later on I decide it's time to go home, but I have to reopen them one last time before I go. I at least want a picture as I see at least some facebook social proof. I know, how trashy. Anyways, they are leaving and start waving goodbye to me. I get some pictures which I'm posting on the Lounge. I feel like my issue right now is that post my social circle Fclose, the level of girl I go after has changed. It's really tough to get IOIs from higher beauty girls. I really need to learn to plow right through. The girl never rejected me. My game just wasn't up to level. I am in a phase shift. I mean 5 months ago I would love to get a 6. Those days are so over. I have so much growing to do. But I feel really pleased. I can't believe I talk to girls this beautiful.

Warm Friday

The weather has just turned this week and it's amazing out. I have a massive bay window right behind my computer so I don't mind writing all these blogs after a day of studying in the park. I really need to keep up with my field reports.
So last night I met up with Rob, and rsd dude, and Stickler, MM legend and guru. They have both been in the scene a lot longer than me. They clicked pretty well and we went to our first venue of the night to warm up. We get there and just start chilling out. The place is kinda scarce and the crowd is meager. Two guys from the other week are there and join us right as one of my HBGermans walks in. She was just in the pub randomly catching a drink before moving on. In some ways she is so shy, but this is pretty brave for a girl who gets hi on mercilessly. Anyways the 2 dudes freak out the girls and my friends and really can't even hold a normal conversation. We keep moving around the bar to ditch them. One of the dude's has brought his backpack again. It's almost unreal. Needless to say they open no sets. Eventually my other HBGerman shows up and the 2 girls head off to another bar I don't wanna go to. We ditch the nerds and Rob runs off with 2 of his friends, with plans to link up in about 2 hours.
Me and Stickler end up at a good dance club, with no dancers. We work on some of his dance moves and I need to work on my aa. It's funny I have massive dancing confidence whereas his approach confidence is so insane. He kept pushing me until I finally opened. I'll admit it. I really let my aa overwhelm me sometimes. I make up the most amazing stories. I think one day I should make a huge list of my excuses. Anyways, he really shamed me into opening a set. To warm up. It went fine. I failed to hook, but that was simply the first set you know?
The joint was empty so we moved on to my local after hours. More of my pivots were there and I ran into so many hot girls I know. I really have a life with many beautiful women in it now. I'm not where I want to be yet, but I am so far forward. I saw the girl who tanked me and HBSparkle. She was giving me the devil eyes and massive cold shoulder. I know this must be bc of my text to Sparkles. I told her the truth about my innocence and how into her I was. I don't expect her to believe me. I just put my truth into the universe. That's all I have to power to do. I am non-reactive. I am fight club.
I meet up with the girl I am cultivating to be my new FB. I forget what I called her before...maybe HBDivorced? Anyways, my mates see her being all sexual with me right in front of the loser AFC who just took her out to a 100pound dinner. I hesitated to kclose her bc I felt bad for the guy and it might have been too much. He kept trying to amog me but he doesn't realize how many texts I've run on this girl. I have really been using all my architectural abilities to frame her. It's going really well. I haven't fclosed her yet, but it is inevitable.
Anyways, I rocked the club with mad social proof but went home alone. Sometimes there just aren't any sets. There was one stunning girl out, but she was a friend of a friend out with her boyfriend, and I am not Dahunter you know? Anyways, it is really good just to go out and not be set-dependent. The highlight for me was the set Stickler pushed me into. I really just need to do more cold approaches big time. I have been thinking all day about Braddock's line that the first 2000 don't count. It's so powerful and it needs to be my frame. Safe.

Gurus

There are so many puas out there pouring information into the community. There are advantages and disadvantages to reading different blogs. I have read a lot of different ones. The reason I learned so much from Mr M was I had just read about social circle game on DaHunter's blog. I read all of his blog for last year in like 2 days. It's more interesting than useful. It's a ton of lay reports and experiences. But in between there are a few amazing bits of wisdom. I really enjoyed reading it. Some other blogs are such serious reading. Like every sentence is so useful that I just can't absorb it enough. Right now the guy who is really cutting the most waves if you ask me is Braddock. I have read a lot of his articles and posts and they are just insane. I can't even absorb one post in a day. It's like he pours out a level of knowledge that is just astounding. His POST on changing your life is insane. It's long but you have got to read this. It will really rock your world. You have to just set small goals. I just read this article today on Sheriff's recommendation. I have to admit. For me the most powerful line is that the first 2000 sets don't count. You have got to read this badboy.
My other main recommendations is Tyler Durden. His blog is so good. Right now he is really writing some cutting edge stuff on philosophy, inner game and framing. It's so powerful. Like after reading The Game, every MM student thinks we are supposed to hate RSD people. I have had my own personal experiences with some RSD guys. They have been good and bad. But I will go anywhere for sweet knowledge. Don't be afraid to learn. This guy is really changing a lot of modern game. He is at the forefront of the shift from routine based game to natural game. When I hear that from most people it really doesn't sound good, but his explanation is really clear. He is talking about something I believe in. The routines are supposed to be the scaffolding. They are there in the beginning and help you build the building, but in the end you take them away. And the tower remains. This is my own metaphor, but it really dovetails with this guys theory. There are a lot of blogs out there and if anyone has other one's to recommend I'm always listening. I'm hoping that Stickler will start a blog soon. This guy is on the brink of exploding on the scene in a major way. He is in the middle of developing some killer theories.
Reading my blog is great of course. You can really follow my path to excellence and I am really prolific. I appreciate my growth in the community and it really helps me to look back on my progress and adventures. If you read my first post it's almost amazing. I wrote that 6months pre-game. It was a lay report and I had no idea how i ended up having sex. It's amazing that that was my less than a year ago.

Core of My Inner Game

I have been doing a ton of reading in the park this week. And I realized that I should post on Inner Game. There is a ton of discussion in the community right now about Natural Game and Inner Game. I have seen a lot of posts in my local lair about how MM is a weaker system because it is routine based. They argue that you will never learn inner game and that you will become confident in your routines and not yourself. I am working through this very issue. My game confidence is very weak compared to my confidence in other areas. The core of my confidence is not based on other people.
My confidence comes from several sources. The first is that I am deeply religious. This is a rare view in our community and the reason my name is Paladin. I am rather private about my religion, but I did try out over a dozen before I settles on mine. In the same way that I am currently working through. The center of my being is based on my God and my relationship with God. That is a long-term thing and overwhelms anything that can happen in a moment. It provides my center. Of course most guys in this society are not religious and will find it difficult to connect with this.
My moment to moment confidence is based in things more physical. I am an amazing dj. I have been playing for 7 years and I can say that I am one of the most skilled djs in the world. I have headlined events on three continents and I currently have shows on two radio stations in the uk. Now when people ask me about it, I simply say that I am an amazing dj. This is in a way unbelievably cocky. For the first two years I djed, I never told anyone that I was a dj. Everyone I knew was calling themselves a dj, spinning records in their bedrooms. People are usually incredulous or shocked when I talk about my ability. I always follow with the fact that no one has ever disagreed with me after seeing me dj. The proof is in the decks. In the same way as my field skills improve, my field skills improve. I still get massively nervous before every gig I have. But I have had every bad experience a dj can face. I have had one deck fail, both decks fail, the mixer break, no mixer, no headphones, a crowd that hates trance, a bad time slot, been lost, the power to the entire club cut out, been nearly electrocuted to death, had my laptop crash, had my laptop crash and send out the worst-sounding tone of all time.......... You get the idea. All of these are mountains I have overcome. Getting through these defeats is what has forged me as a musician. No matter what happens with girls, I will always be a god on the decks.
I also work as a professional tutor. I teach all subjects, from young children through adults. I have several degrees and years of teaching experience. The other day I told a friend I am the best tutor within 30 miles. They asked how could I possibly know that. I have looked up the competition. I don't travel more than 30 miles for students. I teach students at the most expensive school in the entire UK. If my confidence slips with a student, I could be out of work. I know I am good because I have tons of experience, satisfied customers and references. No matter where I live in the world, I can make money and eat.
You should think about what you are great at. Build your inner game around this. It doesn't matter what the skill is. If you think it's nerdy or lame then it is. If you believe it's amazing, then it is. I used to be on a competitive video game team. I have talked about it with embarrassment and I have talked about it like it's awesome. Let me tell you, how I think of it determines people's response. Be proud of everything you are good at. If you are a master at D&D then brag about your wizard rank. There is nothing more attractive than passion. The nature of the passion itself is almost totally irrelevant. Build yourself around you passion and the universe will be attracted to you!