My material

So some of the guys around me are starting to use openers that I wrote or thought of. Last night Sasha was running around using a shocking chloroform one that I told him last week. Now everybody thinks it's his, even though if they ask he will totally say I wrote it. It's flattering that my material is getting out there, but I would like if my name goes out there with it. I think a couple of my routines are going to be in the Routines Manual II, which is pretty cool. I know I have 1 opener in there and hopefully 1 attraction routine. It will just be cool to spread my name a little more and to get more people reading this blog. Cheers!!

Notes from Japan 1 - Skinship

As you know I lived in Japan for two years and it has massively affected my gaming style and fashion. Today I want to talk to you about one of the most powerful words I learned during my time in Japan. Skinship: Human to human touch. In Japan there is a great deal of emphasis placed on this. And it is sorely lacking in most western cultures....

My first day in Japan I saw teenage boys lying across each other, massaging each other, and hugging each other. My first thought was that all of Japan is gay. In fact, it's nearly the opposite. The standard assumption is that men are not gay, therefore they can really express themselves with non-sexual touch. The Japanese have realized that as humans we crave skin on skin contact. There is far more physical openness as all Japanese go to onsen, or public bathhouses, and bathe in public in the nude.

Im the western world there has been a steady decline in human to human contact for centuries. First men stopped touching women as form of sexual repression. Then men stopped touching men as a way of suppressing their homosexuality, even when they were straight. If you notice, often when girls see each other they run up and hug. If two men did the same thing, we would immediately think they are gay. Only recently did I start to question the logic in this. I knew two naturals, who hugged each other every time they saw each other and said something emotional and kind. It's really powerful. I started to emulate them as I wanted to improve my game. Just last night, a guy I'm friends with was over with my house mate. I walked in on them chilling in my house mates room at about 1am, super drunk. My friend tried to shake my hand and I said I don't think so and hugged him. He was hesitant for a second, but then he almost broke my back with a long strong hug. As soon as I made it ok for him to express skinship, he expressed a lot more than me.

In Japanese culture there is a great deal of emphasis placed on the greater good, which I will explore in another article. People express skinship in their relationships as a way of being there for each other. It's a way of giving value. This is something very valuable, that I think we would do well to bring into our society. I often quote the powerful line from Tommy Boy "Brothers don't shake hands, brothers hug!"

When I first started this whole thing, I really freaked out about kino, like everybody else. But not-kinoing is more unnatural. There are a million non-sexual ways to give people physical affirmation. I decided that I wanted to be a guy who has a lot of touch in his life, so that kino will just be congruent. So I touch men and women. I hug girls in set constantly, and not just my target. The new centerpiece of my theory is that of giving out as much value as possible. I want everyone to feel better after they meet me, and for some deep reason, hugs make us feel better.

There are hundreds of articles on how important touch is for babies. Babies that don't get a ton of touch from their mothers right from birth often have massive psychological issues. There are a ton of studies you can read on google scholar about effect of gentle human touch (GHT) on infants. As we grow our needs do not change. I try to hug all of my friends and I am trying to increase the amount in my life. Often we can go through an entire day without actually touching another person, this is so common in big cities and a massive part of why people can feel lonely surrounded by other people.

Japanese people have higher levels of skinship because people just aren't as worried about seeming gay. We could learn a lot from this. I am sure I'm not gay, so I should be able to have tons of non-sexual touch with my friends. I will close by relating one final story. One of my favorite students at a school where I struggled most days was a sweet 14 year old girl. One day she saw me during lunch time and ran at me to hug me. I pulled back, because in America it's really inappropriate for a male teacher to hug a female student. Her feelings were really hurt. My refusing to touch her in a way acceptable in her society really hurt her feelings. I denied her skinship and it changed our relationship drastically in class from that point on.

So in conclusion, our mindset shouldn't be to only touch people for the purpose of sexual escalation. Touch should just be part of our lives, how we give affirmation. Touch is a massive part of how we communicate. Then it will naturally flow that when you are communicating sexually, your touch-based communication will go along with it naturally.

Skinship (スキンシップ) is a wasei-eigo, or a Japanese word coined using English root origins, initially to describe the closeness between a mother and her child due to the physical contact of their skin. Skinship develops through breastfeeding, co-sleeping, baby massage or simply by carrying and holding your baby.

Body Popping

So a big part of my lifestyle is dancing. I absolutely love it. I'm pretty advanced at liquid. I can do some basic locking as well. Last week I found out Soul is into body popping, so it Stickler. I'm pretty excited to have some guys to work with. I definitely want to add this skill to my arsenal.



This is a video with my favorite dance clip of all time. Wait til it hits the black and white section at 3:2 in. Salty. This guy is so amazing. For years I have been trying to master this shotgun move. I know it's just a reverse of mime's rope-pulling trick, but it's still so advanced. I have decided I'm going to try and embed more videos and stuff in my blog to make it more fun. Anyways, I am always looking for other dancers in London to hook up with. Safe.

Golden Mirror

So I was just testing out some social circle game on a friend of my housemate and this girl was talking about a bad date and men not understanding women. I took the opportunity to talk a little about how most men don't understand women yada yada and I talked a little bit about social dynamics. She was talking about bf stuff and how to tell if a guy would be a good one and I dropped about 10 seconds of golden mirror. She just melted. I cut it off and said that's what I would say if I were into you. It was like playing with plutonium. I mean I dig on this girl but I could feel it affecting me too. That stuff is no joke! So take all the warnings seriously. Do not run deep comfort unless you are ready to change your life. I am still in awe of the power of deep comfort right now...my mind just wandered off.

Textual Calibration

So I had a date tonight booked with my HBHenParty from sat. I had solid text game and secured the date. But I really didn't care one way or the other. When she called me last nite to finalize the plans I had mixed feelings. Anyways, today I tried out some different text frame to learn about calibration and which frame is the most powerful. When I sexualized the texts she withdrew and when I accused her of trying to seduce me she pulled forward. I kept trying out different things and eventually broke the line. But I realized that it's important to learn about calibration with the ones we don't care about. I really shouldn't be going out of town tonight anyways for money reasons and I need to finish some coursework for college. But the lesson is very important, don't use text game to sexualize. Save that for in-person. Since there is no kino, sexual escalation seems creepy and weird. Touch is a crucial component to sexualizing any encounter. Maintain a defensive playful funny frame on the phone. My game is so much tighter with what I've learned today. Keep on trucking. I will go out tonight and open a few sets just to keep alive. But I think it's important to focus on callback humor and make anything sexual seem like an accident!

Down with the Brown

I went out with my house mate the magician and some other mates to see Derren Brown live this week. I have been a fan for ages of this guy so I was really excited to see his show. It was about 400 people, but we were 5th row. It was just the perfect distance to really see everything. It was great to see a master of the mental persuasion arts working it up there. I really learned a lot about frame control. As far as I can tell, he's as good as it gets. And it was really great. His best technique is his memory in my opinion. We met him out back after the gig. And he just remembered every name so well. He even recognizes my house mates voice, which he heard when he read his mind. It was so cool. He makes everyone feel like his friend by just throwing his frame over everyone. Anyways, I thought he was such a nice guy I'm going to see the same show again in May with my whole family. I recommend watching some of his dvds to learn about reading people and mental mastery. Top notch and educational as well.

The First Reading

So I just went to check on this blog and I realize that now I am over a week behind. I feel like such a bastard. I have about 6 blogs or something I need to write tonite. Hopefully, I won't mix up this week in my head. At least I know where to start. Saturday night, armed with our new palm reading skills me and me wing went on the prowl. For a Saturday night, everywhere seemed so dead. We started off at our usual haunt. We were outdoors, but under some umbrellas with plenty of heat lamp things. We sat down at a table waiting for the place to fill up when three guys surround us, accusing us of taking their table. One look and I knew they were low value men, so we tried to just leave, but they wanted us to stay. They joined us and talked our ears off for at least an hour but it felt like two. They even tried to get us to bounce with them. When we would try and stand up, they would grab us and be like please stay please stay. I can see now how to use social akwardness to keep someone as a conversational prisoner. They were heading off to another bar and kept asking us to go with them. They weren't gay even, just losers. I saw two of them when I was out the next saturday, but fortunately they left me alone this time. I don't want to surround myself with men who make me look lame!
We ditched that bar for lack of ladies and also the stink of those guys was all over us. Unfortunately, they had really broken our mood and I was no longer in my talkative state from Day Game. We bounced to a few different venues with no success. It was surprisingly dead for a Saturday night. We finally hit up this heavy metal kinda joint to see what was going on. The crowd was early 20s and alright. A lot of really lame dudes who photocopied each others ourfits and personalities. There was some stress between me and my wing at this point. Everytime I was about to open a set, he would give me a reason not to. Because we are both beginners we both have a lot of approach anxiety and he was bleeding into me. I talk myself out of enough sets. It was enough to really get to me. And even after I said something....When I saw a lovely 2set to open, he goes they have a guy with them. And I was like godam dude why are you telling me that? He was like I'm just warning you. When I am sarging solo I don't have that. I brought it up again that it has to stop and I think that it will, hopefully. He is just saying what was in his head when he hesitated to approach the set. We need to work more on just splitting up and meeting once we're in set. Anyways, he opened up a nice 2set on his own. A redhead and a brunette. I love brunettes for a fact. I was wandering around opening some sets with middling success. We went to the other part of the bar for a while, to see if there were other sets to be seen while the girls went smoking. Then the upstairs was too full and they wouldn't let us up for half an hour! When we got back up there, my wing brought me into set with him when he re-opened them. He quickly whispered to me which girl was his target, but I couldn't hear him. And their names rhymed!!!! I assumed it was the redhead because he was talking to her a lot, so I started really working the brunette. At first I stumbled a lot, as winging is as new to me as the rest of this and I almost ran bestfriendstest. I stopped in the middle and remembered not to run routines as a wing. Plus he's run a similar one anyways. So we both isolated which was really good. I did a really good palm reading on the girl. She was really into spiritual stuff so it was quite strong to do. I developed some strong kino, as this is my current project. Things went really well. Then the other two came back from the bar with drinks for me and my girl. It was cool that the HB bought the drinks. Then the girls switched on us and the redhead was all over me. I suddenly thought, CRAP! I am working the wrong girl. My wing must like the brunette. So I start talking to the redhead and start using some strong Cajun material and I am building attraction with this girl. Mostly, I am using the material to false-disqualify becuase I am unsure which girl I am supposed to be distracting. Then my wing takes the redhead outside to smoke. I do some kino escalation with HBrunette to the point of some hugging material and seeking IOIs. I make her qualify herself a lot to even things out and it's going pretty well. Anyways both girls went to the bathroom at this point and I finally found out for sure that the redhead was my wing's target. I was pretty glad since I really liked the skinny HBrunette.
They decided to punish us for leaving them so long earlier and just ran off when we weren't looking. We just didn't stress too much. My wing got overly AFC at this point. Like I kept saying we cannot stay here we need to move after 5 minutes because it looks so weak. Even tho we were having a great conversation and just comparing notes on our work. Finally I got him to walk towards the dancefloor. Just in time too. It had been twenty minutes and the girls walked past us right then and I could tell by the looks on their faces that they had been shit testing us! We didn't turn around to follow them and they were upon us on the dance floor within 3 minutes. Things were cool but I couldn't get into the right position. I was stuck next to the redhead. I tried to dance around her but she was moving parallel to me. Unfortunately, my wing wouldn't let me around either. He was missing all of my signals. Dancing for me is a major DHV, since I am one of the rare guys who can do it well. I don't wanna use it on his girl and mess up the set for both of us. Anyways we danced for like twenty minutes. Later on they disappeared again. My wing opened a lovely blond and I totally ruined a 1set. It was funny, so I will not keep it a secret. I walk over to this girl who is HBsmoking hot and I am trying to think of a good situational opener. I stand near her and start a text facing slightly away from her. This drunk AFC falls right onto me. I immediately open her with why do people fall so much around here? I tried talking to her for a minute. She was nodding a little but she didn't say any words. So I said can you talk? And said should I use sign language? She literally ran out of the bar. She was already looking down when I had walked over to be fair. But that is one of the worst things that can happen when you open someone I think. So now it can't get any worse. I mean I definitely went in the wrong tack, but why cry over spilled milk. Next time I will just stack openers!
When I came back my wing was just finishing up in his new set. The girl basically demanded a drink off of him. When he declined she got super embarassed and the set basically died. I wasn't there but I don't think that should have happened. Anyways the two girls found us again just as we were leaving. We danced some more. Yet again I ended up near the redhead. I felt isolated from the brunette which annoyed me. So I tried to dance past the redhead, but like I danced with her. And I dunno. But it got all messed up. We finally left and my wing was wicked mad at me for that! I realize looking back on all the mistakes I made as a wing. I read Mystery's wing rules and I am really working on memorizing them. I have learned how to better DHV my wing. So it was all really cool. But I definitely don't wanna make a mistake like that again.
But please remember that my palm reading went really well and the girl developed a lot of attraction off of it!

Hearts and Palms

We went to Starbucks on Saturday to recover from our big night of Uni sarging. We get there and this couple is just staring at us. I have been studying a lot of what Cajun says about body language lately and really trying to tighten up that part of my game. I was fixing my main piece of flair, a flashing heart that needed a new battery. I couldn't get it right for some reason, so my wing had to fix it. This couple was just watching up a storm. I was telling him how I loved their confidence. They were making eye contact with everyone in the room and not caring, mainly because they were old and long time married you know?
So once I got my fixed heart back the woman walked over and opened me. She asked me all about the heart and was really interested in it. I was so enthralled by her technique. I mean it's the strongest I have been opened in ages. She controlled the conversation and had confident body language. Because she just didn't care. I think people really develop it when they have been married for ages. It's like you don't have to worry about some stuff because you have a strong element of the permanent in your life.
Anyways, we then went by this really eclectic store that seems to sell lots of crystals and mood rings. The shop girl was cute, so I opened the whole store by asking for a palm reading training glove. Turns out they really exist!!! I end up talking to her and her boyfriend and the other shop people for a while. Then this one lady took such a liking to me that she taught me a TON of palm reading techniques. I have been using them all week with great success. She taught me like three levels from the most basic to rather advanced. It was great to see a cold reading master. I tried a lot of techniques on her to see how she responded. When she was reading my wing's hand and he resisted I twisted her reading to fit his life. Because I know that happens a lot and then I tried asking her really hard things. I asked her to look at our palms and tell which one of us is a twin. What a challenge. I think she should have known it's not me because I am the one who asked her, but she just deflty pulled away from it. It was a great experience and I left there just feeling really nice and mellow inside. I think that is what can be good about the routine. I would never give anyone a negative reading, because I don't believe it's real at all. But I think it's ok to make people feel nice inside. When I got home I spent more time studying the routine from material on the forums and mixing it with the Kenton Completely Cold material. He is a real genius. When we went out that night I did a proper read on a girl and it was really successful. It is great to DHV and really establish kino. I was also just so proud that I got a free lesson from a woman who makes a living charging for palm readings etc. She also does numerology and some other ones. I might try and learn those as well. Fill my pocket with skillz skillz and more skillz.