The Irony of Pickup

I have been thinking about something a lot lately. Guys never seem to transition from pickup to healthy relationships around me. Stickler is the only guy I know with a normal bf/gf relationship. He's been in one for about a year now. Otherwise, all the guys I know get into weird long distance things are mltrs etc. And these are great in the short term, but I don't want to be 50 and still doing cold approaches in club, or more likely church mixers and libraries. I got into pickup so that I could find a high value girl to complete me. I am in the middle of the honeymoon phase with pickup, but I still keep my desire to meet a girl worth it all.

I have realized lately that the girls who blow out every pua in town are actually the girls we most want to meet. I now have very little faith in the tenability of relationships. Modern women cheat as much as men do. I am one of the few men I know who doesn't cheat. A lot of my friends forget that my core is my religion and that I have some core beliefs. It's a big part of why I don't lie in set or try to be mean or neg. I don't want to put negative energy into the universe. I mean that's a modern way of saying treat people around you the way you want to be treated.

As puas we start to think that every girl can be conquered, married or single. But really that is a misperception. I think that there is a strict community of women that are pua-proof. We never hear about them bc the interactions with them only last a moment.

Stickler once told me that he almost wishes he didn't know about pickup. Then he wouldn't have to be so worried about his long distance girlfriend. All it takes is one guy with supertight game and a fistful of boyfriend-destroyers. Obviously, his relationship is stronger than that. I hope. But reality is tough. I have done things with a lot of girls who are dating guys in my social circle. And I had no idea. I was just on a cold approach.

So the dream of every pua is to pickup a girl who is pua-proof. Of course, that is exaclty the kind of girl that we can't meet.

I still believe in true love, marriage, kids etc. I believe there is a perfect girl out there for me. Someone who is able to resist the temptation to cheat and to match the side of my soul perfectly. It's rare to find puas who wax romantic, but we are out there. One day I will find that girl and retire from cold approach and move onto the next phase of my life. One day.

Indian with the Perfect Body

So this is about something that happened in-between last night. I was in the club with a killer popping bud of Soul's. This guy was so cool. I was staring at this one girl and deciding what to do. I sometimes sit in a room and try to decide if I find a girl attractive, which is my mind fighting itself. This girl still haunts me a day later.

Her body was perfect to me. She was the right shade of golden brown. Really skinny. From the neck down her fashion was flawless. She his all of my switches. Soul's mate was like really? She doesn't do it for me bro. But that's the point. We all like different things. So I was wicked attracted to this girls body, but. And isn't there always a but. She had a big nose. She was also wearing a scarf on her head. When Soul came over, he was like don't all Indian girls look like that? As someone who is brown himself, I guess he really knows.

So I never opened this girl. I think that my attraction went to battle with my fear of success. Even though I broke through later with my obstacle LR, I still need to sort this part of my life out. I mean if I am still thinking about this girl's body then surely I was attracted. Why let my brain mix it all up???

My Story So Far

Tomorrow marks my 6month anniversary in this lifestyle. On Christmas ever last year I realized I could never trust my 1itis and that I would die if I didn't change my life. I am so proud of how far I have come and I have a clear vision of how to move forward in my life. I have opened 700 sets, including 10 street sets (2 with sunlight!!!). I have slept with 3 great girls (and one great guy!..ahahah). I have expanded my friend group and met amazing people from all over the world dedicated to improving their lives. I have shared everything with my dad and almost everything with mom about game and my life. I have learned to break through mental barriers and change my life as a man. I have dropped a lot of weight and really started to exercise. I have started learning new dance moves again and practicing my martial arts.

I have so much more to go! I still need to open 1300 more sets before they start counting. I need to really focus on being comfortable in the daytime. I want to expand my friendships and move into central London. I need to change universities and take care of all that entails. I need to lose more weight and start really changing my diet. I need to cut soda out of my life 100percent. I need to develop a strong social network of friends I can trust and give value to, without any expectation of return. I want to meet more beautiful and amazing people. I need to crush my social anxieties. I need to expand my network and really find out my destination.

Something happened tonight. That reminded me of my motivation. I was sitting across from a beautiful girl on the subway for about 6 minutes. 6 months ago I would have looked at her and never considered opening her, just enjoyed her beauty. Today I thought about how to open a single girl across and a few seats down on the subway. By Christmas I want opening her to be like breathing. I want to be unchained. Able to talk to any person I want to, in any situation, of any gender. I seek and demand emotional and social freedom!

Two Weeks Ago

I wrote this on my phone two weeks ago and forgot to upload it. From my mobile....

So i am sitting in my backyard. Listening to some tunes topless in the sun smoking a cigarette. Its so good. What a perfect moment. All my work stress is just out of my mind. I am in the moment. Months of inner game work are paying off.

Notes from Japan 1 - Skinship

As you know I lived in Japan for two years and it has massively affected my gaming style and fashion. Today I want to talk to you about one of the most powerful words I learned during my time in Japan. Skinship: Human to human touch. In Japan there is a great deal of emphasis placed on this. And it is sorely lacking in most western cultures....

My first day in Japan I saw teenage boys lying across each other, massaging each other, and hugging each other. My first thought was that all of Japan is gay. In fact, it's nearly the opposite. The standard assumption is that men are not gay, therefore they can really express themselves with non-sexual touch. The Japanese have realized that as humans we crave skin on skin contact. There is far more physical openness as all Japanese go to onsen, or public bathhouses, and bathe in public in the nude.

Im the western world there has been a steady decline in human to human contact for centuries. First men stopped touching women as form of sexual repression. Then men stopped touching men as a way of suppressing their homosexuality, even when they were straight. If you notice, often when girls see each other they run up and hug. If two men did the same thing, we would immediately think they are gay. Only recently did I start to question the logic in this. I knew two naturals, who hugged each other every time they saw each other and said something emotional and kind. It's really powerful. I started to emulate them as I wanted to improve my game. Just last night, a guy I'm friends with was over with my house mate. I walked in on them chilling in my house mates room at about 1am, super drunk. My friend tried to shake my hand and I said I don't think so and hugged him. He was hesitant for a second, but then he almost broke my back with a long strong hug. As soon as I made it ok for him to express skinship, he expressed a lot more than me.

In Japanese culture there is a great deal of emphasis placed on the greater good, which I will explore in another article. People express skinship in their relationships as a way of being there for each other. It's a way of giving value. This is something very valuable, that I think we would do well to bring into our society. I often quote the powerful line from Tommy Boy "Brothers don't shake hands, brothers hug!"

When I first started this whole thing, I really freaked out about kino, like everybody else. But not-kinoing is more unnatural. There are a million non-sexual ways to give people physical affirmation. I decided that I wanted to be a guy who has a lot of touch in his life, so that kino will just be congruent. So I touch men and women. I hug girls in set constantly, and not just my target. The new centerpiece of my theory is that of giving out as much value as possible. I want everyone to feel better after they meet me, and for some deep reason, hugs make us feel better.

There are hundreds of articles on how important touch is for babies. Babies that don't get a ton of touch from their mothers right from birth often have massive psychological issues. There are a ton of studies you can read on google scholar about effect of gentle human touch (GHT) on infants. As we grow our needs do not change. I try to hug all of my friends and I am trying to increase the amount in my life. Often we can go through an entire day without actually touching another person, this is so common in big cities and a massive part of why people can feel lonely surrounded by other people.

Japanese people have higher levels of skinship because people just aren't as worried about seeming gay. We could learn a lot from this. I am sure I'm not gay, so I should be able to have tons of non-sexual touch with my friends. I will close by relating one final story. One of my favorite students at a school where I struggled most days was a sweet 14 year old girl. One day she saw me during lunch time and ran at me to hug me. I pulled back, because in America it's really inappropriate for a male teacher to hug a female student. Her feelings were really hurt. My refusing to touch her in a way acceptable in her society really hurt her feelings. I denied her skinship and it changed our relationship drastically in class from that point on.

So in conclusion, our mindset shouldn't be to only touch people for the purpose of sexual escalation. Touch should just be part of our lives, how we give affirmation. Touch is a massive part of how we communicate. Then it will naturally flow that when you are communicating sexually, your touch-based communication will go along with it naturally.

Skinship (スキンシップ) is a wasei-eigo, or a Japanese word coined using English root origins, initially to describe the closeness between a mother and her child due to the physical contact of their skin. Skinship develops through breastfeeding, co-sleeping, baby massage or simply by carrying and holding your baby.

Watching TV

So I have been thinking lately of a time when I was 18. It was the end of my senior year and I really wanted to focus, so I could graduate. I heard a story of a man who had commited one massive act of violence and changed his life forever. After his act, he learned 5 languages and changed his life. He one day got so sick of being empty, that he smashed his tv. I also read a fascinating book at the time called Amusing Ourselves to Death. This book really talks about how watching TV can lower a persons intelligence and life prospects significantly. I really changed my life during that time, went to the gym a lot and was in pretty good chape. Of course eventually I started watching TV again.

I am thinking of giving up TV again. It will free up massive amounts of time in my life that I am just wasting. I mean I am pretty productive right now in some areas of my life, but I could be better. But right now I am thinking of all the shows I will miss and how much I want to know what happens. But why do I attach value to meaningless entertainment? I have been up for over 2 hours today and all I have done is play video games and watch TV. Now there is nothing inherently wrong with entertainment. But my room is still a mess. I need to clean it, I need to sort out a ton of files on my computer, arrange a party tonight for Stickler's birthday, empty the dishwasher, put away some laundry, read up on hired-gun game, go to the gym, go to the park, record shop, look for more jobs, work on sorting out a work visa.......... You get the idea.

I want to be so much more productive than I am. If you guys are keeping track, this is my 100th post! So I need to do something special. So, here it is. I am not going to watch any TV for the next 8 weeks. I am not going to watch any movies on my computer, unless it is on a date. I think adding this change to my life will really move me forward. I am also not going to play Civilization during this time. There is something about that game that makes days disappear for me. It needs to stop. This process is all about change and excising the bad things from our lives. I need to spend more time writing music and doing things that I love and will be proud of. This is a really hard decision for me, since there are some shows I'm really into on tv right now, but growth demands sacrifice. As they say, pain is weakness leaving the body. It's time to let the weakness out of my mind!

The Architect

So earlier today I was taking to a pua with a lot more experience than me. During our conversation, I kept qualifying myself and trying to think of good things to say. We were just chatting on msn, and yet I felt like I was talking uphill. I have decided that I want this guy to like me, so I started acting strange, instead of just natural. I have shifted a lot of my girl issues, to other puas instead. Now I care more about what other guys in the scene think, and there is no reason for this. His frame is so powerful, that it just kept absorbing mine. I mean I have a full life with tons of good friends, afc and pua, and plenty of girls. I only realized it during our convo today. It's strange how I still have this innate need to be liked, that releases itself by me acting stange. Well,not strange, but appeasing. It's better that it happens between me and other puas, but I need to outgrow it as a whole on my path to becoming alpha. I see it now so I can work on it. This stuff is a journey, so it's important to constantly pay attention to things. I'm seeing a new layer of the matrix. It's not an issue unless I don't fix it. So maybe next time you're talking to other guys in the scene, you'll think about the frame you've created.

One-itis

A lot of guys are still posting on every forum about one-itis. I have hesitated to post about mine, because I am so not cured. Since I put distance between me and her, I have sarged several hundred sets, fclosed 2 hotter girls and become a minor jedi. I am socially calibrated and pretty happy. I even have one-itis right now for another inappropriate girl, HBSparkle. Anyways, I was so deep that I thought she would fall in love with me, marry me, ditch the other guys she fclosed behind my back. I mean if there are levels of one-itis I was level 9. I only say this because I have heard Sheriff's oneitis story. HA. Anyways.
She is so sexy, smart, and beautiful. She is half Japanese and half Ukrainian. She is really skinny and her body is insane. The moment I saw her I wanted her. She had a long-distance boyfriend, but I didn't' care. He was a million miles away. We were in mystical Japan. It took me 6 months to get between her legs. And it was worth every moment. It was beautiful and perfect. Of course afterwards, she told me it was a mistake and flew to America to spend a week fclosing him. Ouch! I still shagged her again when she got back. Our relationship was sexual for exactly 7 months. She loved me and we had a deep deep rapport. I won't say our feelings weren't real, but I did everything wrong. I put her on a pedestal. I tried to control her through passive aggression. To blame her for my oneitis would be disingenuous. I know now all the mistakes I made that year. She fell for another loser who treated her like crap. She started off shagging him behind my back, then she shagged me behind his back. Classy. I never stopped loving her. I still do. But that love is in my pocket now. Not on my face. I was obsessed. Deeply. She was the first girl I ever told I loved. And I was 25. There are a lot of deep issues I could cover here. The point is that it was deep and real. To call it less is a lie. I planned on writing a book about our love. I have written a song about it that was so good it got me into my current music university. If you hear it, it will shatter your heart. But I read The Game.
It changed me. I am not a chump anymore. I am a jedi. I will not let a girl control me again. Instead of emailing her everyday, I have emailed her 5 times in 6 months. I don't wait for her replies with baited breath. And actually for the first three months I didn't email her. She re-initiated email contact. I live on a different continent. So that I can become strong. But I am a drastic person.

If you are suffering one-itis. Do not say that your girl is different. I guarantee that mine is better. And guess what, they are all the same. It's their dna. Women respond to AFCs the same way everywhere. Cut her out of your life. Grew. Learn the skills. You can even tell yourself that you will learn to be a Jedi like Paladin so that one day you can go back and win her heart. That's ok. Just don't' be surprised if after the 1-2 years it takes, you don't want to go back.

Will I go back to mine? I have no idea. I rarely think about her. I know my emotional triggers. Writing this blog is pretty tough to be honest. But there are just too many posts on the forums on this issue. You have to break free. Or you will die.

Tigger Suit

Ok. This should have gone 3 posts ago. Before the ones about the loser guys in school that I over-valued. I went out last night to see my friend in a battle of the bands. I wore my full body tigger suit for two reasons - to support him and because I was afraid to. I think it's really important to do things I'm socially afraid of. The whole world was staring at me, but my game was super strong. Every girl I saw I talked to. So many opened me. It's not even funny. All these guys thought I was lame, but it just shows how poorly socially calibrated they all were. I really developed a deep relationship with my new pivot. She is a strong HB8 blond with 4 orbiters currently. She is 18 and actually really cool. I will get so many girls when she is around. Her personality is really powerful, so I have to avoid that gravity well!
Anyways, I rocked the suit and I have a shedload of badboy photos of me with girls. I got deep into comfort with this blond stewardess, but my friend kept taking pictures of us talking so eventually she got creeped out. She was a blond so I didn't care, but seriously why can't I have friends who don't creep out girls? I can't really remember all of my sets, but it was a good exercise in frame control. Every girl opened me in a way that tested my confidence. I recommend this kind of inner game exercise to everyone out there. It's not as intense as what Hypnotica teaches, but it really helped me!
Sorry for forgetting all the details of each set this night, but if you become my friend you can see the 60 pictures I posted on facebook. Safe.

losers pt 2

So after class none of the dudes talked to any of the girls. They all pointed through the glass at me right at the end of their song. It was cool. I think it's that I have learned to not care. If these girls don't want it, the next ones will. The theory of abundance is so powerful. Scarcity increases value, even if it's only in my mind. I chatted to 3 hot girls on the way to lunch and these guys, who are really just focused on impressing each other didn't talk to any. It really shows the importance of paradigm, or world view. Too many guys are focused on the wrong things. I mean I can have a ton of guys thinking I'm getting laid all the time, or I can get laid all the time. Which one should you focus on? So stop caring what afc guys think. I find that the better my game gets, the worse other guys assumptions. And if you think about it deeply, this is exactly what I want. The importance is not hating on these guys, it's realizing that the old me would have been trapped in their cold lonely world. So if you are reading this blog, then you are already ahead of 99% of the guys out there. Keep on fighting. Remember I've only been in the game 5 months and I've shattered my old universe.

losers

so im in a lecture right now. My class is all boys that want to be music producers. Today we are recording five girls. They are just ok singers. But all there guys are going nuts being around girls. Its strange because they were just teasing me about my photos from last night. I was wearing a tiger suit. There are photos of me with over a dozen hot girls. I live in a world of abundance. I thought if there guys i barely know can joke about me surrounded by girls that they must get even more girls. I was dead wrong. They all asked the girls out for a drink after class. And the first thing the girls said was that these guys have to pay. And they probably will! What an expression of their low value. The one guy here who i thought had game is the one trying the hardest. Thank god i can see the matrix. I will write more on this later but i am doing a lot of thinking. It's funny that i thought these guys were smooth based on how they talk to men but when i see them around women i can see the reality. I just raised my arms and all five girls mirrored me. Leader of men.

Sex and the City

So I have just watched my way through all six seasons of this. It is very powerful. I personally don't love the characters, but there is so much to learn. It's unbelievably educational. It provides a really great insight into the minds of women. Almost every issue of inner game is covered throughout the show. This is a great resource and can provide you with unlimited amounts of comfort information. Just the other week I went down on HBSparkle while she watched an episode in my room. Gangsta! I have learned so much from this show. Now that I can see some of the matrix, I really understand all the underlying frames in this show. You can really see how much the women are attracted to passion, wealth, status, strong frames, and future projections. If you really wanna move your game up a level, I recommend this. I mean we are all at home playing video games anyways, why not watch this at the same time? And believe me when you can talk about this show with women, they will adore you!

Core of My Inner Game

I have been doing a ton of reading in the park this week. And I realized that I should post on Inner Game. There is a ton of discussion in the community right now about Natural Game and Inner Game. I have seen a lot of posts in my local lair about how MM is a weaker system because it is routine based. They argue that you will never learn inner game and that you will become confident in your routines and not yourself. I am working through this very issue. My game confidence is very weak compared to my confidence in other areas. The core of my confidence is not based on other people.
My confidence comes from several sources. The first is that I am deeply religious. This is a rare view in our community and the reason my name is Paladin. I am rather private about my religion, but I did try out over a dozen before I settles on mine. In the same way that I am currently working through. The center of my being is based on my God and my relationship with God. That is a long-term thing and overwhelms anything that can happen in a moment. It provides my center. Of course most guys in this society are not religious and will find it difficult to connect with this.
My moment to moment confidence is based in things more physical. I am an amazing dj. I have been playing for 7 years and I can say that I am one of the most skilled djs in the world. I have headlined events on three continents and I currently have shows on two radio stations in the uk. Now when people ask me about it, I simply say that I am an amazing dj. This is in a way unbelievably cocky. For the first two years I djed, I never told anyone that I was a dj. Everyone I knew was calling themselves a dj, spinning records in their bedrooms. People are usually incredulous or shocked when I talk about my ability. I always follow with the fact that no one has ever disagreed with me after seeing me dj. The proof is in the decks. In the same way as my field skills improve, my field skills improve. I still get massively nervous before every gig I have. But I have had every bad experience a dj can face. I have had one deck fail, both decks fail, the mixer break, no mixer, no headphones, a crowd that hates trance, a bad time slot, been lost, the power to the entire club cut out, been nearly electrocuted to death, had my laptop crash, had my laptop crash and send out the worst-sounding tone of all time.......... You get the idea. All of these are mountains I have overcome. Getting through these defeats is what has forged me as a musician. No matter what happens with girls, I will always be a god on the decks.
I also work as a professional tutor. I teach all subjects, from young children through adults. I have several degrees and years of teaching experience. The other day I told a friend I am the best tutor within 30 miles. They asked how could I possibly know that. I have looked up the competition. I don't travel more than 30 miles for students. I teach students at the most expensive school in the entire UK. If my confidence slips with a student, I could be out of work. I know I am good because I have tons of experience, satisfied customers and references. No matter where I live in the world, I can make money and eat.
You should think about what you are great at. Build your inner game around this. It doesn't matter what the skill is. If you think it's nerdy or lame then it is. If you believe it's amazing, then it is. I used to be on a competitive video game team. I have talked about it with embarrassment and I have talked about it like it's awesome. Let me tell you, how I think of it determines people's response. Be proud of everything you are good at. If you are a master at D&D then brag about your wizard rank. There is nothing more attractive than passion. The nature of the passion itself is almost totally irrelevant. Build yourself around you passion and the universe will be attracted to you!

Qualification

This is an exercise designed by Braddock to prepare my own Qualification material. Here are the things I am looking for in a girl.

10 Topics I Want to Talk About
1. Music
2. Travel
3. Movies/TV
4. Hobbies/Sports
5. Passion
6.
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8.
9.
10.

10 Things I Want to Screen For
1. Intelligence
2. Humor
3. Passion
4. Career
5. Sexuality
6. Honesty
7. Travel
8. Adventurousness
9. Low Maintenance
10.Low Drama

10 Things I Want her to Know About Me
1. Strong Frame
2. Emotionally Stable
3. Intelligent
4. Funny
5. Travel/Wanderlust
6. Passion
7. Honest
8. Integrity
9. Adventurous
10.

The Day the Music Died

So for about two weeks now I have been trying to get over HBSparkle. The girl I social Circle closed. I haven't written much about it, because I felt like a loser and I really didn't know what was happening. I thought she dumped me because I was too needy by visiting her at work and I have been working on my frames big time since then.

Last night I was going out with some girls I know. I had a strong feeling I would run into HBSparkle. I got a pep talk off of Stickler before heading out. I was amazing last night. My wing opened a two set that had remembered me opening them a few weeks ago. I totally didn't remember them. Then my old amog from my Angel Wings LR showed up and tried to out-game me so hard. I wasn't really interested in either of the girls, so I just stood there thinking about other stuff. The strength of my inner game drew both girls in and my amog's target ignored him and started talking to me. She even grabbed my ass, hard. It was pretty jedi.

When I went back inside, I ran into my pivot's younger sister. I was out specifically to see my pivot and the girls she was out with for a birthday party. I was on fire. I open her. I open her friend, who I have never seen before. I ran a ton of my brand new routines that I've been developing. Pretty soon I am ensconced at a table with three girls surrounding me. And then I see HBSparkle. I am trying to hard to maintain frame. I mean this is the first time I have seen her since she cut me out two weeks ago with no explanation. I have had a lot of girls in my life since her, but I was really really into her. Sigh.

So al night she sees me surrounded by cute girls. I really want to run a massive jealousy plot line. I really felt strong by the fact that she was making really mean faces at me and I wasn't the one acting super upset. She was even out with her x, who is now her current. I talk to her best friend and I'm like why is she being so mean tho? I don't mind it being over, but how about no dirty looks. Her friend is like I have no idea. She even keeps hanging out with me when HBSparkle hits a new bar.

Eventually I run into them again at the main after-hours bar, where I initially closed this girl. I am running super tight game on a smoking blond and the whole bar is watching. Honesty, my game was just on last nite. It was a combination of success breeding success and really wanting to make this girl regret ditching me. I had 3 solid number closes last night. Sound as a pound.

finally, I confront HBSparkle at the bar. I'm like look it's fine if you don't like me anymore, but let's at least be friends. I was like your friend told me that there was some overlap between me and you getting back with your x. I can keep a secret. And she just nearly explodes. She is like are you kidding? What did you say! That's not why I ended it. I was like then why did you end it? What the hell did I do? And then she tells me.

Her best friend told her that I said she had an STI. It's not even close to true. I was like what?!? I never said that. Her best friend immediately sticks to her guns and says you know what I'm talking about. What the hell? The pain in HBSparkle's eyes was a knife into my soul. I hate that a girl I was falling for like an AFC, could be so hurt. There is a knife in her soul and it's got my name on it.

I am innocent. But who is she gonna believe. I fled the bar in sadness. Which I would never normally do. My frame was simply dead. I realize looking back that the friend was always horrible. She is the one who told me the girl wasn't attracted to me and just wanted me as an FB. She told me that HBSparkle was a big slut. She fed me all the false things I believed about this girl. And when I told her that I thought it was lame that she lied to me about Sparkle, she lied to the girl about me. What kinda monster does that to her friend?

I will not soon forget the pain in that girl's eyes. I really strive to be a person who only puts positive energy into the world. The last thing I want is to put pain into a girl I adore. I could handle it if I were guilty. If I had done something to make this girl dump me. I was really over her when I thought it was just an AFC-dump. But to make her bleed so bad. It simply devastates me. I hurt all thw way to my core. Like a child I ran home and called my mom. I cried on the phone to her for an hour. I cried myself to sleep. The walls of my bedroom are painted in shades of pain. I don't want to leave my bedroom again for rear of killing what I love.

I sent a text to the girl telling her I am innocent and that I would do anything to make her pain go away. I doubt she will ever believe or forgive me for this false crime. But I have to put the truth into the universe. No amount of sarging can cure this one. The pain is real. My sadness is real. I really hope that the girl just hurts a little less when she reads my text. I have no expectations from her. I can't control her behavior. But it will take me a long time to develop the ability to be normal around her.

Paladin

You might want to know a little bit about me. I was born in 1980. I won't post my age, as I will probably forget to update it every year on here. I have lived all over the world and I love traveling. I am a trance dj and I teach (english math etc). I have a wicked life and I am only getting better. I got into this whole thing because a girl destroyed me. Like everyone I had my one-itis. We were on/off for a year. She dominated/controlled me with every dirty trick in the book, from withholding to banging other dudes behind my back. I haven't completely cut her out of my life, but she went from being the center of my universe to barely a whisper. I am really dedicated to this art and as you can tell I blog a lot. My first 3 posts are pre-game. All about an SNL and losing a girl, without having any idea about any of it. It's so crazy. I hope you like reading this and that you post comments and throw questions my way. My name is Paladin. My website is PaladinSeduction.com. If you put those together you can email me. I am also the current head of the Guildford lair and am working on bringing together students from every pua school in the area. I love emails and comments.