Qualification

This is an exercise designed by Braddock to prepare my own Qualification material. Here are the things I am looking for in a girl.

10 Topics I Want to Talk About
1. Music
2. Travel
3. Movies/TV
4. Hobbies/Sports
5. Passion
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10 Things I Want to Screen For
1. Intelligence
2. Humor
3. Passion
4. Career
5. Sexuality
6. Honesty
7. Travel
8. Adventurousness
9. Low Maintenance
10.Low Drama

10 Things I Want her to Know About Me
1. Strong Frame
2. Emotionally Stable
3. Intelligent
4. Funny
5. Travel/Wanderlust
6. Passion
7. Honest
8. Integrity
9. Adventurous
10.

The Day the Music Died

So for about two weeks now I have been trying to get over HBSparkle. The girl I social Circle closed. I haven't written much about it, because I felt like a loser and I really didn't know what was happening. I thought she dumped me because I was too needy by visiting her at work and I have been working on my frames big time since then.

Last night I was going out with some girls I know. I had a strong feeling I would run into HBSparkle. I got a pep talk off of Stickler before heading out. I was amazing last night. My wing opened a two set that had remembered me opening them a few weeks ago. I totally didn't remember them. Then my old amog from my Angel Wings LR showed up and tried to out-game me so hard. I wasn't really interested in either of the girls, so I just stood there thinking about other stuff. The strength of my inner game drew both girls in and my amog's target ignored him and started talking to me. She even grabbed my ass, hard. It was pretty jedi.

When I went back inside, I ran into my pivot's younger sister. I was out specifically to see my pivot and the girls she was out with for a birthday party. I was on fire. I open her. I open her friend, who I have never seen before. I ran a ton of my brand new routines that I've been developing. Pretty soon I am ensconced at a table with three girls surrounding me. And then I see HBSparkle. I am trying to hard to maintain frame. I mean this is the first time I have seen her since she cut me out two weeks ago with no explanation. I have had a lot of girls in my life since her, but I was really really into her. Sigh.

So al night she sees me surrounded by cute girls. I really want to run a massive jealousy plot line. I really felt strong by the fact that she was making really mean faces at me and I wasn't the one acting super upset. She was even out with her x, who is now her current. I talk to her best friend and I'm like why is she being so mean tho? I don't mind it being over, but how about no dirty looks. Her friend is like I have no idea. She even keeps hanging out with me when HBSparkle hits a new bar.

Eventually I run into them again at the main after-hours bar, where I initially closed this girl. I am running super tight game on a smoking blond and the whole bar is watching. Honesty, my game was just on last nite. It was a combination of success breeding success and really wanting to make this girl regret ditching me. I had 3 solid number closes last night. Sound as a pound.

finally, I confront HBSparkle at the bar. I'm like look it's fine if you don't like me anymore, but let's at least be friends. I was like your friend told me that there was some overlap between me and you getting back with your x. I can keep a secret. And she just nearly explodes. She is like are you kidding? What did you say! That's not why I ended it. I was like then why did you end it? What the hell did I do? And then she tells me.

Her best friend told her that I said she had an STI. It's not even close to true. I was like what?!? I never said that. Her best friend immediately sticks to her guns and says you know what I'm talking about. What the hell? The pain in HBSparkle's eyes was a knife into my soul. I hate that a girl I was falling for like an AFC, could be so hurt. There is a knife in her soul and it's got my name on it.

I am innocent. But who is she gonna believe. I fled the bar in sadness. Which I would never normally do. My frame was simply dead. I realize looking back that the friend was always horrible. She is the one who told me the girl wasn't attracted to me and just wanted me as an FB. She told me that HBSparkle was a big slut. She fed me all the false things I believed about this girl. And when I told her that I thought it was lame that she lied to me about Sparkle, she lied to the girl about me. What kinda monster does that to her friend?

I will not soon forget the pain in that girl's eyes. I really strive to be a person who only puts positive energy into the world. The last thing I want is to put pain into a girl I adore. I could handle it if I were guilty. If I had done something to make this girl dump me. I was really over her when I thought it was just an AFC-dump. But to make her bleed so bad. It simply devastates me. I hurt all thw way to my core. Like a child I ran home and called my mom. I cried on the phone to her for an hour. I cried myself to sleep. The walls of my bedroom are painted in shades of pain. I don't want to leave my bedroom again for rear of killing what I love.

I sent a text to the girl telling her I am innocent and that I would do anything to make her pain go away. I doubt she will ever believe or forgive me for this false crime. But I have to put the truth into the universe. No amount of sarging can cure this one. The pain is real. My sadness is real. I really hope that the girl just hurts a little less when she reads my text. I have no expectations from her. I can't control her behavior. But it will take me a long time to develop the ability to be normal around her.

My First Review

So this weekend I hung out with the MM guys in London and got to help with some approach coaching. I got my first review and I'm so pleased that I was able to help out! I am so far from being a professional coach, but I love helping out my bros.

Paladin: This guy helped me out and he's not even an instructor, so he should definitely should get a mention. Insanely funny guy, with a relaxed atmosphere and helped me to notice when IOIs are coming. I guess I had misconceptions and didn't notice when I was receiving IOIs and now I'm picking up on them more. In addition, he just pushed me into sets. Thanks man, I needed the encouragement!

I am so happy to help these guys out. It really encourages me to help people have a better life. This dude was an absolute legend!

Body Popping

So a big part of my lifestyle is dancing. I absolutely love it. I'm pretty advanced at liquid. I can do some basic locking as well. Last week I found out Soul is into body popping, so it Stickler. I'm pretty excited to have some guys to work with. I definitely want to add this skill to my arsenal.



This is a video with my favorite dance clip of all time. Wait til it hits the black and white section at 3:2 in. Salty. This guy is so amazing. For years I have been trying to master this shotgun move. I know it's just a reverse of mime's rope-pulling trick, but it's still so advanced. I have decided I'm going to try and embed more videos and stuff in my blog to make it more fun. Anyways, I am always looking for other dancers in London to hook up with. Safe.

Losing an HB

So the whole world seems to know about my Social Circle close. I talked to Mr M about what happened post lay and I realize that it's not part of the model. There is a lot I have to learn about relationship management. So far Stickler and Sheriff are the two big experts in this field. Sheriff said something this weekend that hit me like a sniper bullet. A lot of guys get into this scene and then latch onto the first solid close and girlfriendify her. I turned so red. He is absolutely right. As much as I hate to admit it. I was ready to lock into this girl big time. And the truth is there are a couple of qualification things I need to add. I hate that she wanted to keep our banging a secret. Like I don't care if it's just a bang, but if it's like a relationship, F a secret. How dare she be ashamed of me. I am a legend. I got some serious career going on. I was really attracted to her passion, but there were a lot of indicators of lack of congruence that I totally ignored. She is a well known party girl, even her friends worry she drinks too much. She was so different at my place than she was in the club. I thought this was super great, but only because I was hoping that was the real her. How could I ever be sure who was real? The way it ended is so strange. After her spending the night 2 times, I visited her at work. I always pop in to visit my other friend that works there. Anyways, it was a little akward, but not super akward. I dunno why it ended. She blew off all my meet offers and our texts just dwindled to nothing. I wouldn't mind debriefing her to find out exactly why she ended it, but it's kinda hard for me to care. I have sarged about 6 girls since her and had some decent number closes. The lesson to learn is that I need to deepen my qualification game. Big time. Sam talks about this a lot. He is all about qualification game. I just need to add more hoops. And not get distracted by killer sex. Se la vi.

Paladin

You might want to know a little bit about me. I was born in 1980. I won't post my age, as I will probably forget to update it every year on here. I have lived all over the world and I love traveling. I am a trance dj and I teach (english math etc). I have a wicked life and I am only getting better. I got into this whole thing because a girl destroyed me. Like everyone I had my one-itis. We were on/off for a year. She dominated/controlled me with every dirty trick in the book, from withholding to banging other dudes behind my back. I haven't completely cut her out of my life, but she went from being the center of my universe to barely a whisper. I am really dedicated to this art and as you can tell I blog a lot. My first 3 posts are pre-game. All about an SNL and losing a girl, without having any idea about any of it. It's so crazy. I hope you like reading this and that you post comments and throw questions my way. My name is Paladin. My website is PaladinSeduction.com. If you put those together you can email me. I am also the current head of the Guildford lair and am working on bringing together students from every pua school in the area. I love emails and comments.

Sticking Points

I really learned a lot about my current sticking points from Stickler and Rokker this weekend. I need to massively escalate kino and isolation faster. I'm still in that phase where I don't realize what I can get away with. I isolated a girl when Stickler texted me and I just couldn't believe it. I said I need a drink and I don't wanna go alone. The girl was like wtf? I said you're coming with me, grabbed her arm and dragged her to the bar. Then we sat on a different couch and she never returned to her group. Except to go get her purse and come back to me. It was unreal. I also really need to stop my aa crap. Stickler helped me a lot last night. We were in a bar after the BC and I was exhausted, I smelled like garbage, and I was out of state. He just said stfu and open. I kept resisting, but finally I just did what he told me. I shredded a set. It was strong as hell. I really need to change how I open though, as he pointed out that I overdo it when it comes to my physical approach. I come over the shoulder almost too dramatically. So I will try to work on that. I also speak too fast in set. It's a sign of nervousness. It's doubly bad for me as I am naturally a fast talker from years of competitive debate. Ironically, as a kid I spoke too slowly. On the train last home Stickler yelled at me. I was talking about how sometimes I'm not in state and how I'm working on tapping to get through my AA (and it's helping some). And he just said stfu and open. He is so right. I am so successful in-set. It's really only the first 3 seconds I struggle with. Then I'm golden for 10-30 minutes. I can just stack routines no problem. The other thing I learned from Rokker is Escalation Anxiety theory. I didnt realize that aa is just one phase of this. Like at any given phase of a pickup it's easy to become anxious or fearful. Like if I move forward, I will blow the set. I get like this at isolation phases and close-phases. As I get over this I can look forward to more SNLs. I also have a ton of Social Circle mastery to work on. But that's not really a sticking point yet, as it's simply new information to work through.